[Dani]

The last few weeks I've been struggling pretty badly with feelings of depression and disconnect from the world around me. I haven't seen my T in three weeks and it's been really hard. A few weeks ago I had an appt scheduled with my T and was desperately needing it because that day I was feeling awful while I was at school and couldn't focus on my schoolwork. After my first class, I walked out of the school feeling so upset and crying because I felt like I was losing control of my mind. At that moment I got a message on my phone from my T's office that she had to cancel all her appts that day because of a personal issue, and I was devastated because I really needed that appt that day. I called the office and confirmed that I received the message and I asked the secretary if there would be any way I could get in that week, but there were no appts available. And the following week there was nothing available either. My next appt wasn't until the 18th, and after I got off the phone I cried for a long time, feeling let down and abandoned.

I want to let my T know what has been going on with me these past few weeks, but I don't want to make her feel bad about having to cancel, so I'm not sure what to say about it? I thought about just writing it all out and giving it to her on Monday but I'm not sure exactly what to say.

[sittingatwatersedge]

Dani yr T needs to know how hard it hit you, to be cancelled and unable to get in for that long - maybe she can start keeping a couple of holes in her schedule in case this sort of thing happens, or work through lunch, or ask some other client to reschedule or set up one extra session for you or a phone call some evening or even Sat

all these shocky faces are really not attached to such radical ideas; I mean really, if someone is bombed with work at a regular office and has to take some personal time off, it is not UNHEARD OF to make up the time a little, just to get one's head above water again.
And so important in this kind of a situation, where the head needing to be kept above water is not so much the T's, but that of the client, who depends on the T for help.

I hope you will be able to tell T (and at however great length you need to do so) and get your point across. Until that's done T can't really assess the impact of her decision to cancel. hope it goes great

[WePow]

(((((Dani))))) I agree with Sitting - be sure you share how deeply you are being impacted by this. I am so sorry you are in this pain.

[jexa]

((((((Dani))))))) So sorry to hear you're struggling. I too agree with sitting. Will you bring this up at your next session, tell your T that you'd like an action plan for when you need a session sooner, or at least some support sooner so you can stop the spirals?

[Dani]

Yeah I plan on bringing it up in session on Monday. I want to write it all out though so I can express it to her better and let her know how it affected me.

[googley]

I think that writing it out so you know what you want to say is a really good idea. I think it will help you know exactly how you are feeling and being able to get your ideas and feelings organized.

[WikidPissah]

Originally Posted by Dani

I want to let my T know what has been going on with me these past few weeks, but I don't want to make her feel bad about having to cancel, so I'm not sure what to say about it? I thought about just writing it all out and giving it to her on Monday but I'm not sure exactly what to say.

She should feel bad not about canceling, but about not working out some way of communicating with you and making sure you were ok. She should have set a person you could call in crisis and a way of touching base. It was irresponsible, and you paid for it emotionally.