[Melbadaze]

wonderful piece of observation, I too have these same conversations in my own therapy.

http://mentalhealth.about.com/od/psy...confession.htm

[jilliebeanmn]

Thank you for sharing that. Very thought provoking!

[pachyderm]

"I am a trauma survivor, and we trauma survivors often blame ourselves for the pain and abuse inflicted upon us, but we generally find it extremely difficult to accept that we too are capable of hurting others. We tend to hold firmly a belief that we are incapable of hurting others due to knowing and experiencing the pain and terror of abuse. This belief is a protective measure, and its primary purpose is to protect us from the threat of identifying with those who abused us. If we can identify with them in any way, we might be like them, and the last thing a survivor wants to be like is an abuser."

This piece, referred to by Melbadaze, is by a person who was a member and wrote here on this forum earlier this year, and is no longer a member.