[bpd mess]

this is probably the wrong place to ask this, but is PC kind of safe? i don't think i could handle one more time of me saying something wrong and others turning their back on me and walking away. i don't mind someone disagreeing with me, but the abandonment gets me. this is kinda scary.

[lynn P.]

It depends what's you're level of safety and how sensitive you might be. If you state an opinion, then you may encounter someone disagreeing sometimes. I've had a couple friends 'de-friend' me and yes it does hurt but I bounce back. Personally I would never defriend unless they abuse or stalk me lol. Over all, I think it's very safe and the majority of the members are very nice.

[geez]

I second what Lynn P. says. I am here, I am friendly and I'm listening Welcome BPD

[seventyeight]

hi bpd, yes, i think PC is a safe place. hope that's your experience as well..

[jexa]

My experience has been that yes, PC is a very safe place. If things ever get out of hand even a little bit, the moderators always swoop in and stop it in its tracks. I have only had my feelings hurt one time EVER in the year I've been posting.

[WePow]

PC is like a second home to me, and I am a VERY sensitive person. I find that if you don't read threads with trigger icons if you are not feeling safe, that it allows you to participate in a safe way. I usually end up going back when I am safe and reading the trigger threads so I can help others, but it is in my own time and safe way.

As for others posting back to you, keep in mind that most of the people here are also having a lot going on in their own lives. It takes a lot of energy to read and reply to even one post. For me, it makes each reply to my post a VERY special gift that person gave me.

So just be gentle with others here and with yourself. And welcome to PC ! :-)

[bpd mess]

seems safe so far. looking through other threads, i don't see any judgement. different opinions, but no judgement. i don't see any "can't you just act normal?" statements. that's good. i'm tired of being treated like i'm choosing to do something wrong.

[gelfling]

i agree with geez - geez is friendly and a very good listener.

i responded to one person's post with what i thought was helpful advice and that person took it the wrong way - so i refrain from posting to their threads.

i think people for the most part are very helpful and mean well....even if what they say may seem a bit harsh or not well thought out...there are some with lots of psychology background here and some of us who are novices trying to find our way in this labyrinth

post, talk, chat, share, feel safe, make connections, heal - its what we are all here for -

[zooropa]

IME this is a very safe place. Not perfect, because nothing is, but a helluva lot safer than any other place I encountered online before I found PC.