[WikidPissah]

Ok, so new T is turning out to be ok. There are a few things that bug me, but for the most part they are stupid so I ignore them. But 2 things are hard to ignore.

1) He either reaches out to shake my hand at the end of a session, or he pats my arm. I hate being touched....hands are full of germs. I don't want to be rude so I oblige with the hand shake, but I don't like it.

2) In the past 3 mos I have called him 2x. Pathetic. Anyways, we have an agreement that I can say certain things and not get hospitalized. But both times I called he said "we want to keep you out of the hospital, right?". I felt like that was kind of a threat...like don't say it or else.

Trivial??? Probably...but really irked.

[Miracle1986]

1) Tell him how being touched makes you feel... I'm sure he just doesn't know, but I'm pretty sure he will not willing do anything that makes you uncomfortable.

2) He was probable just reminding you. I'm sure he is not purposely trying to "threaten" you.

[sharon123]

It isn't "trivial"...those are your feelings and concerns. I would suggest being honest; unless you discuss this stuff with him, you will continue to feel unhappy/irked.

HE should not be the one to reach out...that is your call.

[doogie]

Nope, not trivial. If you don't want to be touched, tell him. He probably doesn't know. That's your boundaries - tell him in a nice way. That is standing up for yourself. As far as the other, I would def. tell him how it makes you feel, too.

[jilliebeanmn]

I agree...talk to him about the touching thing!!

[gelfling]

no, eileen - not trivial - my t does the same thing, he makes it seem like there are things i cannot discuss without him threatening the hospital or worse - if i cant talk about these things, how can i talk about the rest of it...

but let him know about the touching, im sure he doesnt realize your feelings about it - hope you get to resolve this - sending warm thoughts

[granite1]

Originally Posted by Eileen2010

Ok, so new T is turning out to be ok. There are a few things that bug me, but for the most part they are stupid so I ignore them. But 2 things are hard to ignore.

1) He either reaches out to shake my hand at the end of a session, or he pats my arm. I hate being touched....hands are full of germs. I don't want to be rude so I oblige with the hand shake, but I don't like it.

2) In the past 3 mos I have called him 2x. Pathetic. Anyways, we have an agreement that I can say certain things and not get hospitalized. But both times I called he said "we want to keep you out of the hospital, right?". I felt like that was kind of a threat...like don't say it or else.

Trivial??? Probably...but really irked.

i would never tell my t anything about my SI or anything about how depressed i can get at this point for these reasons but i thin at this point it is quite tough for a t to hospitalize someone with out them voulenteering to go.and i would def tell T you dont want to be touched.my t asks even if she just wants to move her chair close to mine.i like that.i wouldnt think a t would ever assume touch is ok without asking first.thats kind of strange

[WePow]

I agree - tell T about the issues. You have to be able to be honest or you can't get the help you need. And people have a right (( YOU HAVE A RIGHT )) to set personal body boundaries - my T taught me that! :-)

i don't get this at all, we go to t so we can share all, but if we share certain things, we can get hospitalized, then if we don't share it we just keep it all inside, how does this make sense???

t said not to share, we don't have enough time for everything, so which am i suppose to share and what am i not supposed to share...

sorry for hijacking this thread, but like you, I am soooo curious and irked!!!!