[jazzy123456]

?---- have you ever had a hard time going through with your daily life because you feel you HAVE to, MUST clear something up from your last session...that you MUST clarify something...because I have so much to do, I have to go to work soon, and I have other things to do...but, I hesitate to do them because all I can think about is justifying, clarifying, myself in my next therapy session monday,....if you think like that, doesn't that mean you might be too attached to therapy in the first place?

[geez]

I too feel this way ((jazzy)). I feel like I don't know what I would do sometimes if I didn't have my T I feel like I may be too attached to therapy as well. I'm interested to see what others have to say.

[Elana05]

Hi Jazzy and Geez,

I can relate, it opens up a lot. I think it is healthy to be able to "sit" with the feeling of "well, maybe T didn't quite understand what I said so we'll have to go over it next time." The question is; what makes it seem so urgent? Not sure, but I know I've also experienced it. Maybe the fear that we're not being understood on a basic level?

[doogie]

yes. I don't know if you t allows emails, but I often find myself sending a "I don't think I expressed myself well, so here is what I really meant" email. I have a really hard time thinking that T might have misunderstood me or what I was thinking/feeling.

[pachyderm]

Originally Posted by jazzy123456

?---- have you ever had a hard time going through with your daily life because you feel you HAVE to, MUST clear something up from your last session...

Not necessarily in connection with therapy, but yes, I have often had that feeling. I feel I am in a mortal battle with someone or something else and if I don't for certain know what is going on, I will lose big time. I have had to learn that it ain't necessarily so!

In my case I feel that I know where this comes from: my mother could always outwit me when I was a child; always confuse me, always make me think she was right and I was verrückt. It really makes me panic when I feel I don't know what is happening, and the panic causes me to panic more. Unless I stop it.

[jilliebeanmn]

There is no right or wrong reason. Either way, it allows your T to see you better. If it's driving you crazy call her.

[rainbow8]

I used to feel like that often after t sessions and I was lucky to have Ts who let me call them to clear it up. My current T and I have an agreement that I can email her after every session and she will email me back. That helps.

If you are feeling so bad, call or email. It doesn't mean you're too attached. Therapy is like that, maybe because everything T says is so important to us. It's important to be understood, that T "gets what we are saying." I used to feel stuck and immobilized after a session if I couldn't clear it up right away too. It's a terrible feeling and I don't understand Ts who "make you" wait a week to tell them.

[elliemay]

sometimes i think sitting with those feelings of uncertainty and what lies beneath is a lot of the work of therapy.

Working yourself to some resolution, identify different interpretations, looking at things a different way - I think it's all good.

Perhaps the reason it feels so urgent is that there is some insecurity lurking in there - either about the relationship or the topic and you are seeking some sort of affirmation. I don't know. Sometimes I do that.