[googley]

Why do Ts ask stupid questions? I don't mean those questions most of us hate like "why are you asking that?" or "how does that make you feel?" Instead things like questions at the end of the session when no matter what you say you are going to have to leave anyway and ask something along the lines of "are you doing okay with your feelings? are you going to be able to deal with them?"

At the point that it is the end of session, does it really matter what I am going to be able to do with my feelings. I'm going to have to leave, I'm going to have to deal with them on my own until next session no matter what I say. Given that, what does it matter what I say?

I really just wanted to say "what do you care?"

[skeksi]

Instead things like questions at the end of the session when no matter what you say you are going to have to leave anyway and ask something along the lines of "are you doing okay with your feelings? are you going to be able to deal with them?"

Have you tried saying, "No, I'm not okay," or "No, I don't think I can deal with them"? Maybe the answer you will get is different than you expect.

I say this only because when I answered my Ts question honestly, I was surprised by his response.

ours always said"is there anything else for today?" and when we said that left things very open ended and confusing she stopped doing it because of course theres always more that we can say or need. (((((((((googley)))))))))

[darkrunner]

(((((((((((Googley)))))))))))))

I wish I knew!!

When I've asked my T how she things I am doing in therapy, she asks 'What do you think?'

ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh! Just answer the question!!!! If she wants to know what I think, than she can ask me the quesiton!!!!
But I want to know what she thinks.

Ts!!
Can't live with 'em, can't live without 'em!

[pegasus]

Originally Posted by googley

I really just wanted to say "what do you care?"

Why not just say that? It would be better for you to let go of that anger rather than holding on to it.

(((((((( googley )))))))))

[rainbow8]

Like some of the others posted, I think it's helpful to be honest. Then the question DOES have meaning for you. When my T asked if I'm all right with her taking off the week, I blurted out "NO, it's not allowed." That didn't change anything, but I felt better because I didnt keep those negative, angry feelings inside of me.

If you said "what do you care", your T would have some valuable information about you. Maybe you can tell her to ask you if you'll be okay dealing with your feelings sooner so you have time to discuss it?

[Verbascum]

Reminds me of a stupid question my T can ask - after I asked something, she answers, and then she adds:

Was this a good answer?

Gives me the impression she's just saying whatever comes to her mind and then wants to know if it was what I wanted to hear. I just want her honest answer and I clearly didn't get it!

[rainbow8]

Maybe Ts are human after all. Therapy is an art, not a science, and they are guessing at how to treat us! Hmmm.......

[Elana05]

(((Googley)))

You are in my thoughts today...

Elana