my old T who I moved away from is about to lose someone very close to her to a terminal illness.

I still talk with her periodically (she's still my "mentor," but no longer my T).

She won't say much to me about it, and I just hurt for her and wish I could support her somehow. Though she'd never let me, she'd never lean on me in any way.

I just really really want to see her face and give her a hug. Not just for her, but for me. I miss her, and I think this intensifies my missing her in some way. I need to see that she's okay and still there.

I also don't want to "need" her right now while she's going through this, if that makes sense.

[BlackCanary]

It's maybe not so much that you need her right now, but maybe that you need to be able to support her right now, and she's far away so can't get all the support you could otherwise give?
Caring for and supporting others, it's a need, right?

[WePow]

Bless your heart. You have a big heart. Let your mentor know what you just shared.