[rainbow8]

I thought this might be a good thread, and hopefully not controversial!
What do you want to try to accomplish in therapy next year? Notice I say "try". I know New Year's resolutions in general don't last, unfortunately.

As for me, I want to dig very deep and work through the feelings that are stopping me from moving in the direction of having my Self take care of my parts. I want to get past wanting my T to be the one to do it. Rationally, that's been my therapy goal for years, but emotionally it never has. I want to face that more directly so I can free myself from the unhealthy attachment to my T, but at the same time continue to enjoy the healthy aspects of the attachment.

[granite1]

to be able to talk better in T about stuff or anything

[WePow]

My Therapy this year is focus on bringing balance into my daily life :-)

[Melbadaze]

I dont set goals, time lines are man made, emotions know no time lines, just continue showing up and doing what I've done.

[elliemay]

Originally Posted by rainbow8

I thought this might be a good thread, and hopefully not controversial!
What do you want to try to accomplish in therapy next year? Notice I say "try". I know New Year's resolutions in general don't last, unfortunately.

As for me, I want to dig very deep and work through the feelings that are stopping me from moving in the direction of having my Self take care of my parts. I want to get past wanting my T to be the one to do it. Rationally, that's been my therapy goal for years, but emotionally it never has. I want to face that more directly so I can free myself from the unhealthy attachment to my T, but at the same time continue to enjoy the healthy aspects of the attachment.

To do something every single day that brings me joy.

[Fartraveler]

Originally Posted by elliemay

To do something every single day that brings me joy.

I like that a lot.

My own therapy resolution would be to be frank, honest and open with my T. I don't know, I think I lie to her a lot. Not in actual words, but by somehow presenting myself as something I'm not.

-Far

[rainbow8]

Elliemay, I too like your resolution. In fact, I love it!! It's so simple yet how many of us do it? It's being mindful of the little things in life that can bring us joy, EVERY SINGLE DAY!! Thank you for sharing your goal.

[Travelinglady]

Good question! I have actually been contemplating what I feel are my most pressing issues that I need to address next, although I haven't actually considered this topic as "setting resolutions." I think I might begin my next session by admitting that I don't know what are my most pressing issues. I think I do have a lot of grief and loss issues in my life that I haven't deal with, so those will probably be my first goals of the year. And, yes, to try to enjoy life as much as possible, too!

[chicken_wing]

Great thread! I want to develop relationships more so I am less dependent on my T. I want to stop announcing that I quit every month--I'd settle for every other month.

[ECHOES]

I've moved into a really comfortable place in therapy, where I no longer fantasize that T will be something she isn't, and that has allowed me to feel freer and more open. I want to hold on to that, go deeper, keep feeling more comfortable IRL and be open to where it all takes me. I hope that I can resolve, find closure, or do whatever it is I need to do to stop numbing myself in the many ways that I do, but particularly with food.

[SpiritRunner]

Mindfulness is my hope for the new year - instead of living in my head so much, focus on LIVING, and being thankful for the everyday gifts of life!
I want to learn how to have compassion for myself, forgive myself, and learn to be at peace with myself as I am.

[with or without you]

I don't make resolutions....just because something's a new calendar year doesn't make it time to set goals. Just my opinion

I really really want to be able to transition to one, 50 minute session per week this year, and to feel okay with it.

[chancy512]

To actually follow through on the tasks my T would like me to do. I always say I will but I never do. She worries a lot since a lot of them are medically nessacary.

[sunrise]

I have been in therapy 4 years now and each year, I like to have fewer therapy visits than the previous year. I just added up the visits for 2010 and I made it! In 2009, I had 27 visits, and in 2010, I had 23 visits. So for 2011, I would like to have less than 23 sessions.

[Fartraveler]

I have another one. I want to change so that my T doesn't worry about me, but is just proud of me.

(Good thread idea, Rainbow.)

[ECHOES]

If I could afford it, my#1 resolve would be to increase my sessions to twice a week, something T and I have talked about and both feel would be useful.

[chancy512]

Originally Posted by Fartraveler

I have another one. I want to change so that my T doesn't worry about me, but is just proud of me.

(Good thread idea, Rainbow.)

I totally love this one too!

[chaotic13]

My 2011 goal/motto is going to be "just sow". Stop being responsible for things I can't change or future outcomes that I can't control and just DO what I think is right. Sounds easy enough, not.

[sittingatwatersedge]

To keep going, and give it my best shot........... remembering that the only way out is through.

[jazzy123456]

thanks for giving ppl the chance to open up about this. i'm not in the position to be able to write anything but this thread is certainly thought provoking!