So thankful that anger has gone for awhile! That was a rough ride while it was here. I had no idea that I could have that much anger inside of me. I know that it can come back, but at least for now, I am at peace. YAY!

I couldn't have done it without you guys being there for me. Allowing me to vent, rant, rave or whatever I needed to do to get through it. It helps so much to talk about it, and talk about it, and talk about it! I know that I was driving some of you nuts talking about it!

Now I feel kinda stupid going into therapy on Monday. I have been emailing my therapist all this week about how much anger I have been going through. We were going to discuss that on Monday.

The problem is that I don't have anything to say about it anymore! I don't want to talk about it. Why bring it up? I have processed those feelings, worked through them, and now I want to move on. I don't want to waste our session talking about it. If she brings up some things I wrote in an email, I fear that it will make those feelings come back. I don't want to feel that again!

[skeksi]

If she brings up some things I wrote in an email, I fear that it will make those feelings come back. I don't want to feel that again!

The avoidance keeps us from resolving the anger, from addressing it and maybe finding a solution to what troubles us. It will be hard to discuss it, and it may bring the feelings up again, but it will also help you figure the feelings out and maybe do something constructive with them.

[SpiritRunner]

Originally Posted by skeksi

The avoidance keeps us from resolving the anger, from addressing it and maybe finding a solution to what troubles us. It will be hard to discuss it, and it may bring the feelings up again, but it will also help you figure the feelings out and maybe do something constructive with them.

I think this is a good thing to consider....I don't mean to sound discouraging at all, but I know from my own experience, I have thought that the anger (or whatever other emotion/issue it was) was gone, that I had managed to expunge/destroy it or whatever only to find it come back and I still didn't know where it came from/why/how to deal with it without feeling so destructive! If anything, you maybe want to carefully examine it so you understand better where it really came from, so you could see it coming again, and deal with it in a more constructive, less destructive, way - easier to do this once you have passed through the intensity of it and come out in a calmer place.
And you don't want to have it hiding in there still, where you're not seeing it at the present, only to be surprised again later.....at least, if the feelings came again in therapy while discussing them, you are in a safe place to work through them.
I think it is most likely still worth discussing...probably your T will think so, I'm betting!

Originally Posted by poetgirl76

if the feelings came again in therapy while discussing them, you are in a safe place to work through them.
I think it is most likely still worth discussing...probably your T will think so, I'm betting!

Yes, I am sure she will want to 'explore' what had me in such a rage. This is the first time that I have been able to show anger since being in therapy. She seemed very pleased that I was able to finally get to the point that I would allow myself to express anger. She saw it as a sign of growth and healthy for me.

Anger means alot of things that I did not realize. It can be fear, rage, apprehension, sad, hurt, frustrated, offended, embarrassed, scared, guilty, etc.. So many emotions fall under the umbrella of anger. I am not sure which emotion I was feeling. Maybe a little bit of all of these! I am just so glad that I am at peace right now. I have no idea why the anger decided to leave. Maybe I hit myself enough that I lost focus on what I was angry about to start with. Physical pain can be a killer. It gets your attention, that's for sure!

[SpiritRunner]

Originally Posted by Squiggle328

Yes, I am sure she will want to 'explore' what had me in such a rage. This is the first time that I have been able to show anger since being in therapy. She seemed very pleased that I was able to finally get to the point that I would allow myself to express anger. She saw it as a sign of growth and healthy for me.

Anger means alot of things that I did not realize. It can be fear, rage, apprehension, sad, hurt, frustrated, offended, embarrassed, scared, guilty, etc.. So many emotions fall under the umbrella of anger. I am not sure which emotion I was feeling. Maybe a little bit of all of these! I am just so glad that I am at peace right now. I have no idea why the anger decided to leave. Maybe I hit myself enough that I lost focus on what I was angry about to start with. Physical pain can be a killer. It gets your attention, that's for sure!

I hope you stay at peace....

[Sannah]

Squiggle, you weren't driving us crazy at all. This is what this site is for, to help.

I would think that you could explain all of this to your therapist so that she understands you better and can, therefore, help you more. If she is missing some of the pieces she won't be able to be as helpful to you.

I'll bet the talking about it was more helpful to move past the anger than the pounding.

Anger is a secondary emotion to all of the primary emotions that you just listed. I feel that we get angry when are needs aren't getting met.

Originally Posted by Sannah

I'll bet the talking about it was more helpful to move past the anger than the pounding.

Anger is a secondary emotion to all of the primary emotions that you just listed. I feel that we get angry when are needs aren't getting met.

Yes, you are right that talking was more helpful that pounding. The problem is that so many times we cannot find anyone to talk to. That is why we resort to other ways of coping: emotional eating, shopping, drinking, hoarding, and other wreckless behaviors that are just distractions from the real issue.

I do not feel that my basic human needs are being met at all. Sometimes we have to accept life as it is. My life is not normal and never will be. I cannot expect to have what I want. It is not about me anymore.

[Sannah]

Originally Posted by Squiggle328

The problem is that so many times we cannot find anyone to talk to.

You talked here and it worked. Creating our lives so we have someone to talk to is part of healing.

Originally Posted by Squiggle328

I do not feel that my basic human needs are being met at all. Sometimes we have to accept life as it is. My life is not normal and never will be. I cannot expect to have what I want. It is not about me anymore.

This is how you are feeling now but keep working and moving forward and you will see that there are alternatives that you haven't thought of before. It's all about the process.........