[ladyjrnlist]

WEll after almost a year in therapy for me and several couples' sessions, I have finally convinced my husband to at least go to one session himself. He has some issues relating to his past and the death of his twin brother that need resolving. I knew this even before I started therapy of my own.

We will be seeing my therapist, individually. T said he will act as if we are separate clients, sharing no information about sessions between us. He said if he feels the need, he will have us come in for a couples session.

I trust my T, so I think this will work out. I'm just glad hubs is going to give it a shot. I don't know if he will stick with it, but at least he is going to one session.

Fortunately, my marriage is strong and we are very open with each other, so I don't think there will be many issues that we need to resolve as a couple.

Meanwhile, I continue intensive trauma work. Four hours this week. It's sapping my energy. But I know it's something I have to do. I learned something about my past yesterday that was very disturbing. More abuse happened than I admitted. It is difficult, but I have to work through this. Send us both some hugs, if you have them!

[SpiritRunner]

I hope it will all go well for the 2 of you! I'm glad your hubby is willing to try therapy for himself, too, and hope he sees the benefit of it for himself.

i think it is great that h agreed to go to a session, that is kudos!
sending safe hugs for you and hubby>

[sunrise]

Good luck to you and your H. He is brave to go to individual therapy to work on this. (And you are too!) I'm glad your T is able to accommodate both of you in his therapy model (my T is similar).