[lastyearisblank]

Been reading about transference and just curious if it's easier or harder to have transference to a woman t vs. a man...

Can you have transference to a male t where you feel they are acting like your mother? Can a female t remind you of your father?

Also I am just wondering does the sex of the t change how well they go about handling it? For eg. I wonder if women t's might be more comfortable feeling "motherly" toward their patients, whereas men might enjoy it a little more when patients have teeny tiny crushes on them?? Just speculating of course... (I am not a t!!!)

[BlackCanary]

Ha, LOL but seriously I doubt that any T feels flattered by the crushes we get on them - some feel downright uncomfortable!

I had parental transference toward male and female teachers all the way, even in college. Still in touch with my favorite professor, he still feels like a proud/puzzled Dad to me.

I always felt parental transference feelings toward my male exT, who was about 5 yr old than me - like he would keep me safe. I also felt crush/lover transference feelings because he was male, like mmm nice body. I felt friend feelings because we had the same type of sense of humor.
My current female T is younger, I feel like she's a friend or younger sister - nothing parental and nothing sexual. I'm very fond of her and appreciate her because she's honest and direct - she told me I'd have to find a way to trust her despite her youth, and she earned my respect.

[lastyearisblank]

LOL! I love this post. People on here are so honest.

I have had 3 different therapists, all male and all paternal types.. They all related to me in a certain way... the last one outright said, "do you wish I were your father???" But I think it is much more complicated than that.

[WikidPissah]

I've had both genders as T's. I have never felt either to be maternal. I prefer men, because it feels "brotherly", and with females I feel judged for my lack of femininity. Does that even make sense??? I didn't have any kind of loving, nurturing relationship with either parent, and dad was much more abusive than mom. But growing up the only friends I had were male, so I guess that's what I am more comfortable with.

[with or without you]

My relationship with T, who is female, feels like teacher/mentor to me...btw most of my teachers all the way through school (and through college) were women.