[Suratji]

I'm meeting my T tomorrow and I want to talk to her about how to plan for a very sensitive self-disclosure on my part.
These are the questions I have for her so far. If you have any other ideas, I'd love to hear about them.
1. What issues have you dealt with in your practice? (My idea is that if she lists what she has faced and what I'm about to tell her is on the list, then I will know she won't be as shocked.)

2. Do you have any tips on how i can more comfortably self-disclose?

3. My issue involves another person. Is it right to break another's confidence?

4. I won't be able to keep talking after disclosure. What can we do instead? Quiet time? Meditate? Listen to music? ?????

5. I will feel more comfortable sitting on the floor with you. Will you do that?

6. Any sliver of positive regard you have had for me will be gone. How can I cope with that?

7. How can I leave your office in one piece after self-disclosure?

[granite1]

i think your questions are a great way to decide if it is ok and then i would also go for sitting on the floor if this is allowed.i love the floorit is so grounding and safe.and a little less formal and intimidatingbe kind to yourself self-disclosure is hard and youky but i bet you will be relieved after on some level

[PTSDlovemycats]

Good luck with this and I hope that it works out well!!

I like your questions, suratji.

When I first started disclosing things to my T that were hard, I talked A LOT about talking about it. I asked questions, I talked about why I was afraid to tell..actually, a lot of work got done JUST in the talking about talking. I felt a lot safer after getting my questions answered, and got to a lot of issues just talking about why it was so scary to tell.

Good luck tomorrow!

Those are great questions!

My T and I talked about the feelings around disclosing something before getting into it too. I can't believe how helpful that was.

I am a huge fan of the floor even if my T doesn't join me. Sometimes it's the floor BEHIND the chair.

Good luck!

[WikidPissah]

The biggest question for me (I haven't disclosed much yet) is "What kind/how much support will I get this week if I get unstable?"

BTW...I can't believe how many people like to sit on the floor, it amazes me. I won't even sit on the floor in my own home (and I know my carpets are clean)...people's feet have been there...ewww.

[Suratji]

Originally Posted by Eileen2010

The biggest question for me (I haven't disclosed much yet) is "What kind/how much support will I get this week if I get unstable?"

BTW...I can't believe how many people like to sit on the floor, it amazes me. I won't even sit on the floor in my own home (and I know my carpets are clean)...people's feet have been there...ewww.

Eileen - good question "How much support...?" Thanks for adding that to my list.

I guess sitting of floor feels very normal for me. Funny - right now my house is too full of furniture to sit on floor. For me, being around other cultures in which floor and pillows is natural. Sitting on the sand at the beach or under a tree feels connected to earth. Dirty? I guess. Not that I would necessarily lick it. Protect our clothes? Sure, I suppose if I was wearing something that shouldn't be stained. But there's something really really nice when there's a gathering of people and we sit around on the floor. (Again, not that I've done it lately. Gotten old and stiff )

[Sannah]

Excellent questions...........