Sorry, I felt really uncomfortable having this up there. I don't want to expose my T in anyway...

Any thoughts on my 40 page entry?

[WePow]

It feels like your T wants to do what is right for those he serves. But it feels like there is tension between the two of you as well. There is some frustration there. I don't think your T is trying to cause anyone to be frustrated. I sense it is a relationship that grows and changes. And you did the right thing by being honest and stating your point of view.

[ladyjrnlist]

Some clients need to be harshly spoken to at times, don't assume your T is really being mean.

[PTSDlovemycats]

hmmm...I didn't see your 40 page entry but from what I am reading here it sounds like your T is being a little more direct with you maybe? I have times when my T speaks to me quite firmly and I ALWAYS always cry when she does that. She always reassures me that is isn't getting mad at me and that the reason that she is choosing to be firm is to really get me to listen to what she is saying because it is important and I need to hear it. This is how it usually goes down now. I hope that you all enjoy it, Lol.

She now warns me and says "I am going to be firm with you now..."and yea, that is pretty much the reaction I have. Think of the bowling ball being my T and I well whatever, Then T saying hey i am not mad I say it sure feels like being on this right now Then she says really?, well let's explore that then for a bit. After are harmless battle with only few tears said things come to a positive conclusion as usual. with a high 5 and a and the usual standard silliness that always seems to entail these sorts of situations in the first place... And NO my T does not have a teeter totter in her office, LOL I wish that she did though! The ULTIMATE avoidance mechanism!! SWEET!

I don't know if this was relevent in some sort of way but hope that I did somehow manage to cheer you up a bit and to let you know that you are not the only one who goes through these kinds of things with their T's, Hope you are well. Take care. Cats.

Originally Posted by PTSDlovemycats

She now warns me and says "I am going to be firm with you now..."and yea, that is pretty much the reaction I have. Think of the bowling ball being my T and I well whatever, Then T saying hey i am not mad I say it sure feels like being on this right now Then she says really?, well let's explore that then for a bit. After are harmless battle with only few tears said things come to a positive conclusion as usual. with a high 5 and a and the usual standard silliness that always seems to entail these sorts of situations in the first place... And NO my T does not have a teeter totter in her office, LOL I wish that she did though! The ULTIMATE avoidance mechanism!! SWEET!

I don't know if this was relevent in some sort of way but hope that I did somehow manage to cheer you up a bit and to let you know that you are not the only one who goes through these kinds of things with their T's, Hope you are well. Take care. Cats.

Your animation squabble did cheer me up a whole lot but, no he wasn't being "firm" with me. It was with another patient who suffers with the same things I do. (PTSD) but she's overly dependent and I'm anti dependent and I worried if I started to depend on him, that he may start treating me like her.

But he wasn't being "firm" with her. Or "challenging" her. It was brutal meanness. Tone of voice, and frustrations on his behalf. Which I brought up and let him know that it effected me personally.

An P.S I would like a teeter totter too!

[Perna]

That you both have PTSD and respond differently; you are different people and had different experiences and responded differently. I can't really see you "turning into" her? I don't know what you see in their relationship that you are calling "dependent" and how you view you and his relationship and your "anti-dependent" behavior. No way to predict how he will respond to you, no matter what you do because your and his relationship are unique to you and he, and you are questioning what will happen in the future, and there's no way to know.

It can be extremely uncomfortable to watch another couple's behavior, especially if you know either/both of those people but that's true even when it is "good" behavior. I remember when a woman in group therapy with me was ready to terminate and she and the therapist had this beautiful, very intense (to me and the others in the group) personal conversation and I was in awe (I could learn to be/respond whole like that???) but also terrified because of the intensity. But that was about "me" and where I was at that time and maybe you are seeing things through eyes like that, where you are now and what you are thinking, etc. when their relationship and interaction is actually not germane to you.