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#1
Apr 22, 2011, 05:14 PM
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Oh. My. Gosh.
I am not okay. I thought I had really got to a good place with this trigger with T, but I haven't. My anxiety is through the roof. I don't even know what to do. I don't know how to avoid the triggering situation. I talked to a friend about it a teeny tiny bit, and it just made it worse. It's bad. This is the worst I've felt in a while. And to make it worse, I asked t for a message and he hasn't left one. He only works 1/2 days on Fridays and I can't imagine him leaving a message over the holiday weekend, so...?? We had so many misses before the break, and I've been REALLY scared to ask for anything since then because of that, but I decided it was safe to take the risk...because really, is it even a risk? T has always been so good about this stuff. So, instead of hanging onto the good feelings from session, I'm in this stupid place of fear and uncertainty. Ugh. The anxiety is really bad. I can't explain it. I want to stay present but I don't know if I can and I'm afraid that I'm going to make everyone around me angry because of my big fear. I feel sad and scared. |
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#2
Apr 22, 2011, 05:18 PM
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(((tree))) Do you have any breathing exercise you do, or meditation? Something that might help you push the anxiety away quickly to feel better? Previous T messages you could read to get a sense of his presence and caring, maybe?
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#3
Apr 22, 2011, 05:32 PM
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((((((((tree)))))))))) can you stay in the now?
I have had huge anxiety, panic-fear today and have had trouble staying grounded......but deep breathing and saying the words 'I am here now, in this moment, and it's OK now' have helped me so much today. |
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Apr 22, 2011, 05:45 PM
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(((((((((treehouse))))))))
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#5
Apr 22, 2011, 08:58 PM
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(((((Tree)))))
I am so sorry you are in a bad place right now. You know your T cares deeply for you. Can you go back to those feelings and hold onto them? A LOT of Ts are off today due to the holiday. I am certain that your T cares for you. |
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#6
Apr 22, 2011, 09:16 PM
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Touch something soft
Taste something yummy Listen to something enjoyable Smell something nice Watch something moving ......Ground yourself Treehouse. 
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#7
Apr 22, 2011, 09:23 PM
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My first thought is it's a Holy Day- would your T have been observing it or is that not his thing? It's always sounded like he's been awesome to you...
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#8
Apr 22, 2011, 09:26 PM
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 I had session. He said he would leave me a message. I can't stand ANOTHER miss. It takes me back to "what is GOING ON?"It's so confusing. He DOES care about me. I know he does. AND I feel disappointed and confused. Blah. I went to a 12 step meeting and asked if we could talk about fear. It really really really helped me with my trigger situation. It was a lot about staying in Now. I have to stay in now...not in the past, and not in my fears about the future. It's hard. My H doing things that make me anxious. I wish so much I could get into a better place. I am just kind of a mess. I haven't been like this in SO long. I know it won't feel like this forever, but I hate it right now, and I don't know how to make it stop. Maybe I just have to get through it. I am frustrated and sad and confused and scared. Still. I so appreciate the responses. As I was driving to my meeting I was thinking "there is literally NO ONE I can call about what's going on right now". But I knew PC was out there and it does help. 
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#9
Apr 22, 2011, 09:33 PM
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#10
Apr 22, 2011, 09:35 PM
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Would it help to write him an e-mail to clarify what your feeling? You don't have to send it .You could revisit it again tomorrow to see if you still feel the same. Sometimes I have done it for days making a little change here and there, then by Sunday night or Monday you can decide if you want to send it. It has helped me I guess by feeling like I was trying to express what I was feeling the best I could and that took time, so I just kept working at it. It help the time pass till I felt I could send it. Sorry you are feeling so badly Sending you caring {{{{hugs}}}.
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Apr 22, 2011, 09:35 PM
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((((((tree))))))
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She left pieces of her life behind her everywhere she went.
"It's easier to feel the sunlight without them," she said. ~Brian Andreas |
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#12
Apr 23, 2011, 12:00 AM
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I hope that your T does leave you a message Tree.
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#13
Apr 23, 2011, 12:05 AM
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(((((((((((((Tree)))))))))))
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#14
Apr 23, 2011, 05:40 AM
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T sent me an e-mail at about 11:20 last night...I was in bed, about to go to sleep, and I checked my e-mail one last time.
He had tried to text me earlier in the day, but I didn't get it. We've NEVER texted, so I don't even know if we can get texts to each other. Apparently not! Anyhow, he explained why he didn't call, answered a question I was really worrying about, and said he'd call today. A friend PMed me last night and reminded me to get some sleep, so I did try to go to bed early. When I get anxious, my self-care goes out the window and I forget to sleep/eat and it just spirals me into a worse place. One of my kids is sick and woke me up early, but it's okay. I got some sleep and I am trying to stay in now. Now, now, now. I'm going to try to let the trigger go for today, stay in the now, dye easter eggs with my kids, go to my son's baseball game, and be as okay as I can. Thanks for being here
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Apr 23, 2011, 05:57 AM
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i hope you are able to have some fun dying easter eggs with the kids.maybe get out the camera i bet you can get some pretty fun pictures of the event.and the kids may love it.hope you are able to get some sleep tonight
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Apr 23, 2011, 06:28 AM
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LOVE your list! Thanks for sharing it and I'm going to make one for myself too. I may steal from yours, though!((((tree)))) I'm so glad T connected with you. He is such a caring T. Have fun with your kids coloring eggs. Gosh I miss those days. And I hope your sick little one feels better too.
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#17
Apr 23, 2011, 06:28 AM
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(((((((((((((Treehouse))))))))))))
I'm so glad you heard from T, got some sleep, and are feeling a little better. Strange that he would try texting out of the blue when you've never done that before!! You should experiment with that when you are in his office to make sure it will work. You're doing really well!
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#18
Apr 23, 2011, 06:47 AM
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(((((((Tree)))))))) I am so glad your T emailed you back !!!
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