[winterbaby]

I am not sure what. I am trying to identify it. T and I had a great relationship. I have been feeling something is off although I can't put my finger on it. He is not as personal or warm as he has been. Still very nice and professional and all of that, but something is missing. I tried to bring it up but I could not define what it was and he didn't seem all that interested in helping me to figure it out. Anyone been through this and how did yo uresolve it?

[Suratji]

Oh yes, I've had that. One time I left session and I felt something was wrong. The session seemed to go well but I still had a nagging feeling.

Later on, I got a flash that 'she wasn't there'. I left a message with her and asked her if she was there during the session. That was the only way I could express it.

We talked about it next session and she agreed that she found herself emotionally aloof. And we discovered that she was unintentionally responding to my own aloofness.

That is what is called limbic resonance.

I would find it quite worrisome if your T is not interested in exploring your feelings about that. My T constantly asks me how I'm feeling and trying to help me work through them.

[dizgirl2011]

Hey,

I have felt this at times too, usually when I address it with my T she doesn't really feel the same but she asks me what it was that made me think she was different or the session was different and we explore it.

I think Suratji is right that your therapist should want to talk to you about your feelings on this, put perhaps he doesn't approach therapy that way...what type of therapist is he?

[SpiritRunner]

sometimes I have thought T seemed distant, but when we discussed it, it wasn't her actually being distant......it was me. me feeling a distance in the connection for some reason......
this is the sort of thing I would hope you could discuss with T.....because it may be that both of you are feeling a distance in the connection, for whatever reason......