[Christina86]

Today my therapist gave me solid examples about how I've "changed" as a person. Now, I don't remember this but she said that almost two months ago I was calling her very frequently and I was always freaking out... and now I don't call her, except for positive things or about appointments. She says that's positive change because I need to learn to realize emotions aren't the end of the world and that I can cope by myself.

Wow. Then when I was upset towards the end of the session, because I told her I was financially broke and couldn't afford to continue seeing her, she actually TOLD me to Google her. Which I found amusing because of all the discussion that usually happens here in this forum around researching your therapist. So I now know that she's got like THREE different places that she's a therapist at, so I'm assuming she knows that one of these places would offer more reduced counselling for me. Why she wouldn't outright say that is beyond me... but it's interesting to be given permission to Google her! (I already knew she was on LinkedIn, a networking site for professionals but I'd never would add her there since we've never "worked" together )

I do wonder what she thinks of me sometimes. She told me today that apparently I've tried to fire her like three times recently in the meetings we've had. Oopsies. My general reaction to dealing with feelings or conflicts - get away from them. So anyway I apologized for doing that and told her why I do it (I'd rather fire someone than have them leave me).

My therapist honestly amazes me.

[PTSDlovemycats]

That's great Christina! It sounds like things are progressly nicely and you are moving forwards. Way to go!!

[rainbow_rose]

Thank you for sharing this!!

[jexa]

That's so awesome! Hearing that feedback is so helpful I think since a lot of us forget what we used to be like.

As far as why she couldn't tell you that info -- it's possible she signed a no-compete contract with the place where she sees you now, so she is legally not allowed to refer you to herself at a different company. That's probably the most likely explanation.

[dizgirl2011]

Originally Posted by Christina86

Today my therapist gave me solid examples about how I've "changed" as a person. Now, I don't remember this but she said that almost two months ago I was calling her very frequently and I was always freaking out... and now I don't call her, except for positive things or about appointments. She says that's positive change because I need to learn to realize emotions aren't the end of the world and that I can cope by myself.

Wow. Then when I was upset towards the end of the session, because I told her I was financially broke and couldn't afford to continue seeing her, she actually TOLD me to Google her. Which I found amusing because of all the discussion that usually happens here in this forum around researching your therapist. So I now know that she's got like THREE different places that she's a therapist at, so I'm assuming she knows that one of these places would offer more reduced counselling for me. Why she wouldn't outright say that is beyond me... but it's interesting to be given permission to Google her! (I already knew she was on LinkedIn, a networking site for professionals but I'd never would add her there since we've never "worked" together )

I do wonder what she thinks of me sometimes. She told me today that apparently I've tried to fire her like three times recently in the meetings we've had. Oopsies. My general reaction to dealing with feelings or conflicts - get away from them. So anyway I apologized for doing that and told her why I do it (I'd rather fire someone than have them leave me).

My therapist honestly amazes me.

Hey Christina,

how did it feel when she told you about the progress you had made?

I find it surprising you hadn't googled her already as I thought pretty mcuh everyone would do it out of curiosity lol. It is odd how she didn't just tell you that you could possibily see her somewhere else for a lower cost but perhaps she didn't want to put you under any pressure to say yes to paying that amount either. It sounds like you have a good relationship with her and that she enjoys working with you and can see the progress you are making

Well done hun!!

[Elli-Beth]

Cool! I'd agree that it could be policy not to "steal" clients. We had that at one of my former jobs.

[Christina86]

I never thought about the reasons for not outright telling me she works elsewhere. I admit, I did Google her once, which is how I knew about LinkedIn and about *one* of her other places she worked. I figured they were for different reasons and for different clients, never brought it up because I didn't find it important. She spends a LOT of her time at place I currently see her at though... unless she's planning to quit. I don't know.

Dizgirl2011:

how did it feel when she told you about the progress you had made?

I was astonished and wanted to argue about the phone calls she says that I used to make, since I honestly don't remember calling her daily like she said. Okay, there was one week when she wanted me to do it but it was her telling me to do it! It was sort of disbelief, along with wanting to say "yeah, but..." (And then list all of the ways I still currently feel I suck or places I need improvement...) I don't deal well with compliments as much as I'd like to believe. I also thought I pretty much had her fooled also, because even though I'm *not* calling her frequently, I'm still going through a rough time (which was evident by the rest of the session, which I haven't discussed here). Oh well, sometimes it's good to explore the positive stuff rather than dwelling on the bad I guess?

Thanks everyone !!!