I'm so used to my T. having such a poker face. You know you can say your most horrible experiences or feelings and they just reflect back empathy....

Tonight, we were discussing some of my needs in therapy (flip side to complaining about T.) T. said so it would be better if you saw less of ____ behavior and I said yes...and then without thinking I said "yeah and I'd like it better if I saw less of your "I told you so" or "gotcha" smirk too." He turned red and I wanted to crawl under the chair...but then he said "Yeah I guess I do give that look" and we both laughed.... Won't do that again....felt like I crossed a line there...

Later I think he was trying to nicely discuss some mood swing issues that he may have picked up on and he started to say " You can be so moo...." and stopped himself mid sentence...and I said its okay you can say moody...I won't throw anything at you....

It was nice to be relaxed in session....but it felt weird too.

Has anyone's T. been embarrassed by something you said?

[childofyen]

Great post! I especially enjoy the bit about being moody!

I have embarrassed my T, just a few weeks ago in fact. I caught her completely off guard with a vaguely sexual comment (not about her) during an otherwise innocent conversation. Ooops... I didn't mean to say it at all... but it just came out and she turned red and got all fidgety. Kind of funny in retrospect, wicked awkward in the moment.

[Wren_]

I think mine is unembarrasable (is that a word?); I keep thinking I will have and expecting it to happen and nothing. That was fun reading about your comment about not throwing anything

[mixedup_emotions]

I don't recall ever saying anything that embarrassed my T....but I do know that I've said things that he reacted to emotionally with anger and frustration - not typical of his T demeanor - and totally against what he preaches. Stirred him up....That was unusual for me.

[childofyen]

Once while chatting about local politics I accidentally made my T cry. Not in an offended way.. I'm just THAT persuasive, I suppose.

[granite1]

not yet

[Verbascum]

Yes, several times. She's a bit curious I guess, she sometimes asks things that are - in my opinion - not related or of no relevance at that moment. First time I just answered and was upset afterwards, now I counter her, like: Why do you want to know? or Why would this be important / is this really relevant? Or just: You really ARE curious!
She's always embarrassed when something like that happens: turns red, hides behind her hair, starts fidgeting with papers... I love it!

No. There've been times when I've thought I've embarrassed her or made her uncomfortable, but when we talked about it, it was my overwhelming shame that I put onto her.

I swear quite a lot at times (not at people, just quite casually when I'm talking) and T doesn't react to that and seems to add a few swear words to her own speech for the purposes of mirroring!

[ballet_girl]

For some reason I LOVE it to see my T embarrassed or showing emotion...something different from the usual poker face I guess. I think the only time that I've embarrassed her is when I call her out or accuse her of thing. Usually its unfair. But if I say something about her not really understanding me or other criticisms she kinda blushes.

I don't think I've ever embarrassed my T(s). I shake her up sometimes though She doesn't really have a 'poker face', but a genuine "everything in here is ok" affect.

[Omers]

My T is WAY too good at laughing at herself to get embarrassed!

[deliquesce]

aw, i love poking fun at pdoc & austin-t, so i've made them both go red at times.

pdoc is very "proper", i think. like, he likes to present the "i'm a professional" facade. so he gets all red and shy when sexual jokes come out. not that i make them - usually we'll just be chatting and i can tell when he's had a thought which he's labelled inappropriate, and i'm onto him like a dog. the jokes are never embarrassing in themselves, the embarrassing bit for pdoc is being caught out. he shooed me out of his office once (we were at the end of a session anyway) saying he needed a few moments to de-red his face before his next client.

austin-t on the other hand... we're very similar, so usually anything that embarrasses me is something he relates to. it's usually something stupid to do with my ocd-ish behaviours, which he can one-up. we end up going on a one-up game and losing track of the conversation, but we both end up red faced and laughing a lot. it's nice. he says he doesn't tell any of his other clients half this stuff, but he feels comfortable sharing with me.

[Butterflies Are Free]

My T does not embarrass easily - in fact, I think I get embarrassed in sessions more than she does(when I talk about hard topics). She was even great when I told her that I was confused about my sexuality(it took me almost 6 months to even mention it to her). Good luck!

[learning1]

I can't imagine embarrassing my t. He seems pretty comfortable bringing up pretty much any topic. I wish he'd keep some things that embarrass me to himself once in a while. He has told me some personal things that he's working on and apologized when I didn't like something he said, but I don't think he was embarrassed.

I've never seen my t embarassed. He's so comfortable with himself and has no problem laughing at himself.

My T is pretty easy going about most things but my having DID always makes conversations interesting. Evidently, another "part" of mine commented that when T takes vacation, he should go to this place that is known for it's nude beaches. He replied "I don't think ANYBODY would want to see that!"