[danii24]

what does it mean if a t says you discociate yourself from what ur sayn ?

it left me a bit comfused

[dismissed feelings]

Originally Posted by danii24

what does it mean if a t says you discociate yourself from what ur sayn ?

it left me a bit comfused

What specifically did they say about it and when? Can you provide more details??

Originally Posted by danii24

what does it mean if a t says you discociate yourself from what ur sayn ?

it left me a bit comfused

Without knowing the context it could mean something different, you should ask your T. what he meant. But if my T. said it to me, I would interpret it to mean that I was separating my feelings from what I was experiencing or talking about. It would be like if you had a traumatic experience and you told all of the facts that happened to you but you didn't even sound or look upset. Just my layman's interpretation.

[dismissed feelings]

Originally Posted by Readytostop

Without knowing the context it could mean something different, you should ask your T. what he meant. But if my T. said it to me, I would interpret it to mean that I was separating my feelings from what I was experiencing or talking about. It would be like if you had a traumatic experience and you told all of the facts that happened to you but you didn't even sound or look upset. Just my layman's interpretation.

I do exactly that R2S!! I guess bc. I was taught to always hide my feelings and just get over things that sticks with me and being emotional feels like being weak to me. Or, it's denial. Hmmm...

Originally Posted by dismissed feelings

I do exactly that R2S!! I guess bc. I was taught to always hide my feelings and just get over things that sticks with me and being emotional feels like being weak to me. Or, it's denial. Hmmm...

Its great you know you feel this way. It took 6 months of therapy for me to realize that needing something from someone or depending on someone does not make you weak it makes you human. Personally, I'm still working on feeling the feelings. Actually it would be an accomplishment to just accept that I have feelings.

[dismissed feelings]

Originally Posted by Readytostop

Its great you know you feel this way. It took 6 months of therapy for me to realize that needing something from someone or depending on someone does not make you weak it makes you human. Personally, I'm still working on feeling the feelings. Actually it would be an accomplishment to just accept that I have feelings.

As you say, knowing it and feeling it/acting on it are two very different things.

[rubyindie]

generally disassociated means not being in connection with what you are actually feeling inside regarding a matter. its like u feel hurt inside but you put up a defense mechanism in your mind to protect yourself from getting affected. so you disassociate yourself from the emotion or situation just to avoid confronting the emotions .
this gradually becomes a comfort zone for some people that they use this defense in all most all stressful situations.
the best way i think is to get yourself to have that moment of introspection about your true feeling at a point in time. or maybe writing about your experiences during the day and confronting what you might have actually have felt at that time. when you do know what you feel....you have to then accept it and know for sure that experiencing them is completely normal.
i too had this problem( god! i still do...)i used to be so calm and composed after i returned to my parents after 6 ys of complete isolation from all people during my marriage when they were actually expecting me to cry buckets over my lost years, career and confidence.( thats what my narcissist of an ex did to me) i was in denial for years about the actual feeling i felt towards my husband, because i wanted to believe in something good. when i forced myself to think in perspective i decided to get out of it now that i am here i want to cry my heart out about the things i have endured but i disassociate myself from those emotions and think about something else.....but i realise i have to talk about it and accept these feelings as my own and stop feeling sorry and guilty, one emotion at a time......its a process ...will take time......but its gonna be worth it. i try to think of it as flushing.....
all the best

[WePow]

((((Dani)))) my college T said I did that too. He said that when I told him about certain past events, I was emotionally disconnected. He said it was "news reporter" style of talking. I was unable to emotionally connect with the content of the story - at the time.