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Aug 03, 2011, 08:17 PM
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T is away this week so I'm reading a psychology book
 I'm reading "the mindful path to self-compassion'. Just beginning it. And I came across this in a section about mindfulness: " When therapy goes well, patients develop an accepting attitude toward whatever they're experiencing in the therapy room - fear, anger, sadness, joy, relief, boredom, love - and this benevolent attitude gets transferred to daily life." I really like this description. It sounds peaceful. It is not always the emotion itself that is difficult for me to deal with, but the self-blaming, self-shaming, self-judging that is part of it, as well as the perception of a need to 'do' something about the feeling. I just wanted to share this. I'm looking forward to the rest of this book. |
 childofyen, confused and dazed, skysblue, WePow
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Aug 03, 2011, 08:22 PM
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I love it! It's very DBT-ish
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Aug 03, 2011, 08:36 PM
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Great thread title! Fer sure!
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Aug 03, 2011, 10:05 PM
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Ohh sounds like a good book!! it also sounds like a place I want to get to-working on it!!!
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Aug 04, 2011, 07:54 AM
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I've been trying to describe to myself how things have changed inside myself since I finished therapy, how I'm "different" from when I was in therapy and all I can manage is that all the "noise" that was in my head, "the self-blaming, self-shaming, self-judging that is part of it, as well as the perception of a need to 'do' something about the feeling" has gone.
Imagining it from before, I would think it would feel too quiet and "empty" but it doesn't, just pleasant, like a new, summer morning, full of exciting possibilities. I can think whatever I want and get to direct the thinking without worrying that something unexpected will jump out and pounce on me. Some mornings I wake up and rush downstairs like it's Christmas and am almost disappointed when I find there aren't a whole bunch of presents waiting, it feels like there should be
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Aug 04, 2011, 01:43 PM
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Yeah, this sounds like radical acceptance with DBT. When we don't accept ourselves JUST as we are, we double our burden and increase our distress needlessly.
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Aug 04, 2011, 03:15 PM
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echoes,
i like that; thank you for sharing. i had to look up the word benevolence but i too want more of that "attitude" transferred to things into my daily life. it's a nice thing to strive for, thanks again.78 |
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Aug 04, 2011, 08:51 PM
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how does this idea work when one of the things you're experiencing is being addicted to something?
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Aug 05, 2011, 11:39 AM
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Quote:
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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