[rainbow8]

I've been thinking of weird things I want to do in therapy this week since I didn't have my session. I want to sing my favorite songs to her. I probably won't do it, but I have this urge to sing "Where is Love?" from Oliver. It's one of my favorite songs. I'm always searching for love. Another old song that my father used to sing to me makes me cry. Maybe I will cry in therapy if I sing it. I'm not going to say what it is.

I don't want to play the music for these songs. It's not the same. I don't know how I'd ever get the nerve to sing in therapy, though.I usually only sing when I'm alone! Did anyone ever sing in therapy or is a really crazy idea?

[SoupDragon]

Would be pretty crazy for me to sing in therapy, I can barely even talk :-)

I am with trying to be in control of my therapy and learning what I need, where I want to get to and how this may be helpful. I also think it is the T's role to be there for us and support us in ways that may be beneficial to our proggress.

So I think if you feel that this would be of benefit to you, then it is a valid reason to do it.

Good luck, would be interested to hear whether you do sing in T and if so how it felt for you. SD

[my3sns]

my T has sung to me several times

I wouldn't do it myself (and I am a singer and we talk about me needing to get back into that aspect of my life all the time), but that's just me.

I think my question to you is is this another fantasy you are having about some interaction with your t that you will be disappointed about when it doesn't go just the way you are fantasizing it? Maybe in there will be your answer? Just a thought.

[sunrise]

Even if you don't do it, you could discuss it with her. How do you think it will make you feel if you do it? Is it that feeling that you want to get that motivates you to do this? Or are you wanting to share something special from your childhood with T? Use this as a technique to help you cry? What? It's interesting!

I have never sung to my T (and don't want to). My T, though, has sung to me several time--just a few lines from a song here and there. He has a really nice voice and sings in a vocal group. I never felt pressure to reciprocate, thank goodness. (My singing voice is not good.)

[Butterflies Are Free]

Go for it - I think it's great! My T has a piano and I have played/sung songs for her several times! We have even sung together - it's a wonderful thing and very healing.
Good for you for wanting to share this intimate part of yourself. I hope you are able to do it!

[Perna]

The closest I came was when my T was going to Bangkok and I spontaneously started singing "One night in Bangkok"

by Murray Head. She was "fascinated" but I quickly ran out of knowing the words (I only know the refrain, LOL). She had never heard it.

I have fantasies of her "secretly" listening/watching while I play games on my computer and have a favorites playlist of mine playing in the background.

[dismantle.repair]

I think if I ever started singing in therapy, she'd call the psychiatry unit for me, hastily. :P

I always tell my clients that they can let me know things however they need. And say something like "you can talk it out, play it out, sing it out, etc etc". I have yet to be sung to tho

[rainbow8]

Thanks, SoupDragon. Sometimes other methods of communication are easier than talking. Writing, drawing, for example. I think it would be easier for me to sing than to cry.

my3sns, I'm curious as to when/why/what your T sang to you, but if it's too personal to share, I understand.

farmergirl, you know me pretty well! This time I wasn't fantasizing about a certain outcome, though. It's more about sharing some important feelings with her, especially the song my father sang.

sunrise, singing makes me feel. I talk about feeling sad in therapy, but I never cry. I don't talk much about my father who passed away a year ago. The songs may just get me to access feelings I can't get to otherwise. I just don't know if I could do it or not.

Butterflies, that's interesting! Is therapy in your T's home? I can't imagine a piano in an office.

Perna, I want to print the words because I don't know them all. Another song is Over the Rainbow, which I think affects many people. I love show tunes.

crash&burn, My T is versatile so I think she will think it's touching and special.

It's just a gut feeling that singing in therapy would help unleash something but I could be wrong. I don't have much to lose. She's seen me fall apart with this scribbling last session. I just don't want to hold back because I want to get better and I'm stuck.

[rainbow8]

stormy, I have written poems for my Ts many times. I've shared pictures and stories. I've brought in a tape (different one) for my T to listen to. This is the first T I would be comfortable with to share my singing. She knows music is important to me. Even if I can't do it, I'm going to tell her about wanting to.

We have sang with our T many many times. I say go for it!!

[rainbow8]

SarahMichelle, I don't want my T to sing with me, though. Does yours always sing with you?

[with or without you]

Originally Posted by Perna

The closest I came was when my T was going to Bangkok and I spontaneously started singing "One night in Bangkok"

by Murray Head. .

LOL, hysterical.

I'm a music fan and I play a few instruments, never wanted to share that side of myself with T, though. I really don't play for anyone anyway because of my social anxiety.

[crazycanbegood]

i sing a little not well. i would love to have enough courage to sing to my T!

let us know if you decide and how it goes.

[Wren_]

My T sang to me once also; but I've never sung to him ... that's wonderful if you can do it in your session Rainbow (I like that song also )

[Perna]

Originally Posted by rainbow8

Another song is Over the Rainbow, which I think affects many people. I love show tunes.

Oh! I'd sing "If I Loved You" from Carousel!

If I loved you,
Time and again I would try to say
All I'd want you to know.
If I loved you,
Words wouldn't come in an easy way
Round in circles I'd go!
Longin' to tell you,
But afraid and shy,
I'd let my golden chances pass me by!
Soon you'd leave me,
Off you would go in the mist of day,
Never, never to know how I loved you
If I loved you.

One thing I did do was take a classic poem by a well-known poet and "rewrite" it to apply to our work in therapy (and it was about Love, too) and write the two out side-by-side, the original and mine, and give that to her.

[rainbow8]

I love Carousel too, Perna. I can't think of which other songs I like from it, ATM though. Another one I sing is "A Place for Us" or maybe it's called "Somewhere", from West Side Story. "Climb Every Mountain" from Sound of Music, "The Impossible Dream" from Man of La Mancha, and "Somewhere, Out There"--not sure if that's the name, from An American Tale. Oh, you got me started. This goes in another forum, probably!

[lastyearisblank]

I would never be able to do this because of social anxiety but I would actually love to write a song and bring it into T. I feel like words get in the way so much some times and it would be a really good way to express feelings. I hope you get to do this, rainbow!