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Aug 16, 2011, 09:16 AM
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Can anyone else relate to feeling so triggered that you want to run far, far away and hide? I know its bad when I feel so hurt that I feel numb.
I went to couples T with my partner last night and things did not go well. A week ago I was fired from a job I had only had a short time but I had gotten my hopes way up about it and felt so lost and confused when they let me go. Now my partner is acting distant and seems completely exasperated by me. Everyone does. I can't take losing this job and then losing her as well. I feel like I have no purpose and like I can't work fast enough to fix what needs fixing in my broken life. I have been looking for room shares - or for somewhere to go. I am so triggered that I don't want to be here if she is giving up on the relationship. I never will, althought I am mad at her right now I have made/ had made a life-time commitment to her. To know that she hasn't tears me apart. I can't be with someone I love but know they may not feel the same way...
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Aug 16, 2011, 09:24 AM
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Maybe you should call the T about this and maybe they can set another appointment up with you. Be gentle with yourself, it sounds like your being to hard on yourself. I'm sorry your having hard time right now. Take care!
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Aug 16, 2011, 09:50 AM
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  i just feel the need to reach out and lend some suport.i hope things will be ok but be patient with yourself.you are on you time not SO's or anyone elses
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Aug 16, 2011, 10:57 AM
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Seems that you are mindreading and you don't really know what is going on in your partner's head? What did she tell you?
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#5
Aug 16, 2011, 04:15 PM
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(((((((((((Elana))))))))))))
I also wondering if you are projecting how you are feeling about yourself onto your partner. Losing your job is really hard. I'm sorry it happened to you. I also think that it would be good to get another couple of session in couples T before you make any decisions.
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Aug 16, 2011, 05:12 PM
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I hope you can find a comfortable way to feel better. It could just be that you being angry at your partner and her acting distant and exasperated with you are two sides of the same coin. I would put that to one side for the moment and work on what you can work on (finding another job or place to live, whatever you are working on). Relationships can get so complicated, can't they? If yours has you wanting to run because of your worries about it, concentrate on something else that you can work on/change/help and that might make you feel more confident to work on the relationship a bit later.
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Aug 16, 2011, 06:48 PM
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I'm not good with advice. Others have said some really good things. Just giving you support.
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