[delicatefade26]

So I can't go into too much detail b/c I'm always so paranoid that people would be able to figure out who I am based on what I say...but basically my T and I are both going to be at a luncheon on Monday...I wasn't aware he was going until he said something about it this evening-he asked if that was okay with me-and I said yes-and honestly it is...I guess I'm just nervous that it will be awkward (it's going to be a small setting with not a lot of other people-and only a few of my other friends that will be there too know I see him)...I figure I will end up not even really speaking to him...ohh it's going to be interesting for sure! Does anyone have any tips?!

[rainbow8]

I was in that situation a lot with my former T. Yes, it was awkward. There's no getting around that fact. I managed, though. Sometimes I sat near her and we made small talk. We always said hi at least. I used to watch her when we were in a large group setting; I couldn't help it. Another time she sat next to me at a lecture and I felt like a deer caught in the headlights! Eventually it got better when I saw her in RL, though.

You'll get through it. Just say "hi" and try to ignore him. He will do the same with you. After I got over the weirdness of it, I liked seeing my T outside of the office. At least I knew where she was and what she was doing at that time!

[delicatefade26]

Thanks Rainbow...yeah I think it will end up being fine-I will just say Hi-and try not to watch him interacting with the other people too much...ohh and on top of this there is going to be a guy I dated there who I have talked about with T-haha (seriously...super awkward) I'm sure we will discuss it in session next week depending on how it goes! I think I'll try just acting like it's no big deal

[granite1]

i think you should just say hi and be yourself .you will have friends thare and you can talk to T or not it is up to you.i think it will be ok if you just be you

[Perna]

I would just "give it up". I remember when I was in college and we had a Secret Santa thing in our dorm where someone had picked your name and left you a little present like a candy bar every day with a "clue" as to who they were and then on the final night's Christmas party they gave a larger present and revealed who they were. Mine turned out to be a friend, my next door neighbor in the dorm and she gave me an adorable bra and panty set so I put them on and went next door; she had a single, had the room to herself, I knocked and opened the door and. . . she wasn't there but her boyfriend was My little brain went into overdrive and I decided it looked a lot like a bikini and it wasn't like he probably hadn't seen a woman in bra and panties so I went in (left the door open, LOL) and did my best modeling for him!

I would just go up to him right away and say "hi" and do a little chit chat and see if you can't get rid of some of the awkwardness that way, try to normalize the rest of the meeting?

[delicatefade26]

haha!! thanks for the laugh Perna! Yeah I refuse to make it awkward!! I'm sure he won't make it that way either : )

[wiprwill]

My Pdoc daughter and my daughter went to the same school, same age, same activities.

So I saw him a lot out of the office setting. I would just make normal small talk with him

IT worked out