[OneRedRose]

so i only get 12 sessions with T, but ive had alot happening in my life so the main reason why I see T is being put on hold, because we have decided that these problems need assistance right now, and im running out of sessions, I know ill need to continue to fix the original problem but my friend says that id be put on to see a different T when 12 weeks is up (as its all done through the NHS) but I dont want to see a different T, I dont want to have to explain everything all over again, and me and this T get on really well....so how do i tell T that i dont wanna change over?? is it even allowed?? I dont think she really has any control over it...this question will be more suited to people living in england who get their therapy through the NHS otherwise i dont think things are done same way in america.

ive had therapy stuff before and not cared when 12 weeks was up, but ive never gotten on with a T so well, well other than my school counciler but I had to leave as I finished school (although we both brought in a picnic so it was a nice goodbye) so still wouldnt know...

I know this seems really silly, but i find it hard expressing stuff, and I dont wanna seem clingy...even though I am.

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by OneRedRose

so i only get 12 sessions with T, but ive had alot happening in my life so the main reason why I see T is being put on hold, because we have decided that these problems need assistance right now, and im running out of sessions, I know ill need to continue to fix the original problem but my friend says that id be put on to see a different T when 12 weeks is up (as its all done through the NHS) but I dont want to see a different T, I dont want to have to explain everything all over again, and me and this T get on really well....so how do i tell T that i dont wanna change over?? is it even allowed?? I dont think she really has any control over it...this question will be more suited to people living in england who get their therapy through the NHS otherwise i dont think things are done same way in america.

ive had therapy stuff before and not cared when 12 weeks was up, but ive never gotten on with a T so well, well other than my school counciler but I had to leave as I finished school (although we both brought in a picnic so it was a nice goodbye) so still wouldnt know...

I know this seems really silly, but i find it hard expressing stuff, and I dont wanna seem clingy...even though I am.

my suggestion talk with your therapist. maybe they can help get you more sessions or work around the 12 sessions.

here in america most therapists are used to working with insurance companies. sometimes just a statement from the therapist will get more sessions approved. therapists can also plan your sessions out so that you can keep seeing the same therapist. example here with 12 sessions a yr that would mean my therapist would schedule my sessions with her as monthly.

talk to your T about it; maybe they know some tricks that will enable you to see them when the next 12 sessions are approved.

I'm not sure if it's 'allowed' or not. I was offered 10 sessions of counselling, not 12, but I didn't take them up on it as I'd already found someone in private practice - and like you, I get along with my therapist and I didn't want to start back at the beginning. Previous to this though, I'd been given an initial 4 sessions of CBT - but they kept me in the program beyond those sessions as my issues hadn't been resolved. (However, CBT, or maybe it was the specific counsellor didn't suit me, so I quit soon after.)

Like you, I'm unclear how these things are run in the NHS, it's confusing, and information isn't readily available. It may also depend on wherabouts you live and the services in that area. It's definitely worth you asking the question - from my experience, I don't think these things are always set in stone.

[KUREHA]

You should ask, I got to see my psychologist on the NHS for ages, if your therapist thinks they can help you, you should definitely get to see her longer.

[beautiful.mess]

Originally Posted by OneRedRose

so i only get 12 sessions with T, but ive had alot happening in my life so the main reason why I see T is being put on hold, because we have decided that these problems need assistance right now, and im running out of sessions, I know ill need to continue to fix the original problem but my friend says that id be put on to see a different T when 12 weeks is up (as its all done through the NHS) but I dont want to see a different T, I dont want to have to explain everything all over again, and me and this T get on really well....so how do i tell T that i dont wanna change over?? is it even allowed?? I dont think she really has any control over it...this question will be more suited to people living in england who get their therapy through the NHS otherwise i dont think things are done same way in america.

ive had therapy stuff before and not cared when 12 weeks was up, but ive never gotten on with a T so well, well other than my school counciler but I had to leave as I finished school (although we both brought in a picnic so it was a nice goodbye) so still wouldnt know...

I know this seems really silly, but i find it hard expressing stuff, and I dont wanna seem clingy...even though I am.

I'm not in the UK so I can't offer any advice not already given, but I did want to say that's it's not silly AT ALL. We NEED to be able to "click" with our t's.....that's half the battle (if not more) IMO to making therapy effective! Not silly in the least; it's a completely legitimate concern.

[confuseduk]

Maybe you could ask T if she offers private sessions as well as NHS ones? I hope you can get it sorted, you shouldn't be limited when it's something you need

[OneRedRose]

hey thank you all for your responses, i guess the only way to really find out is to talk to her, she knows I have issues talking to other people, and ive dropped hints that ill find it hard to talk to somebody else, i dunno shes calling me today to see how i am doing so i may bring it up with her today, or wait until our next session, i just hope theirs something she can do feels weird it feels like your about to lose your best friend only you know the exact date that its gonna happen which makes it feel even more weirder!

[confuseduk]

Hope you get it sorted. Maybe you could ask when she calls, she obviously cares to do that. Let us know how it goes

[OneRedRose]

well spoke to T today on phone, but couldnt bring up nerve to ask T, kept thinking T would just think I am selfish (even though I know she wont....i think) and also that like T was taking time out to call me when she probably has lots of things to be doing, so ill ask her on my time next week rather than her time I guess

[confuseduk]

(((oneredrose))) I hope you find the courage to talk to her about it, it sounds like she really cares and wants to help. Maybe you could write it down if you can't say it?

[OneRedRose]

thank you confuseduk she is really caring, she makes it clear that I am thought about when out of session, which is nice to know that while I am probably just another patient i am not just another number yeah maybe a little letter will be good...then I can just hand it to her and kinda hide lol! least then I wont have to go through embarresment of screwing up my words like I usually do lol!

[confuseduk]

Yeah, she sounds like a keeper and from what you've said I think she'd find it hard to stop when you still need it too. When is your next session? Please keep us posted with what happens really do hope there's a way you can continue seeing her

[OneRedRose]

yeah she is my next session is tuesday, so not too long really, ill keep you posted

[confuseduk]

Please do and keep posting if you need anything

[OneRedRose]

wow this post traveled very far back started thinking id imagined it when i went to give an update lol!!

well last night my friend phoned me because she actually spoke to her own therapist about my concerns and he said that I wont be left unfixed and therapy will continue until i am better, which made me feel better but i still spoke to T today, and she basically confirmed what he said, said she has no plans to terminate any time soon, and that theirs more of a chance of me being handed over to other services after, but not any time soon which made me happy, but now im paranoid about what she means by other services???