[Silent_tsol]

Ok so I've been to 2 sessions with T. I really like her and seeing her every other week (or as often as I need) as opposed to the counsellor at school I saw very rarely and could never get past trust issues in between sessions

So I've got a complaint and thinking about it, the counsellor did the same thing and it bothered me. So what is this thing that's getting me so uncomfortable?

They reassure me. If I tell them something surprising I get, "wow! How did you do that?/ how do you feel about that?/ how are you managing that?". And for some reason that makes me uncomfortable.

Anyone has insight or had similar feelings? Like I get that that should make me feel better or at least reassured....but it just makes me ...ergg

[delicatefade26]

Do you feel like it's a genuine response? Or does it seem like they are saying it because they feel like they should? I know it would bother me if I felt like they were just using phrases they picked up in their training....

[Silent_tsol]

No! That's why it's weird. I do believe she is sincere and cares but it still just....I don't know

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by Silent_tsol

Anyone has insight or had similar feelings? Like I get that that should make me feel better or at least reassured....but it just makes me ...ergg

The general rule is, if you have a reaction of any kind, take it back to your therapist.

Eg, "I think you're trying to reassure me, but it feels wrong."

My T would certainly say of any post on this site: "Print it out and read it to me."

[Silent_tsol]

Thats a good point - I guess i just worry about what to bring up. I have a tendency to overthink things