[sweepy62]

ok so several weeks ago i posted about my sis in law and how she made me feel horrible saying that everyone seeking therapy for mental health are just using the system and that she pays for it out of her hard earned money

her 16 year old son is a liar gets suspended from school almost every other week and is in therapy for mental issues anyways my brother in law her husband has a dog who is always running away and we end up having to look for him and bring him back to the house.

yesterday it happened again, so as we were getting ready to leave her son shows up with a friend, when he is supposed to be in school, i asked several times he told me he was there to pick up a book ( yeah right) ok so as we were leaving he told my husband and i not to tell anyone he was there with a friend

my husband told him i am not lying for you and i am calling my brother right now, now mind you i am feeling overwhelmed naturally i am weening off meds to start another one i am depressed

this morning i woke up to about 12 texts from the kids mother that my husband treated her son bad not only that but he lied and told his mom that he told us his mother knew and he was on a lunch break, apparently my brother in law did not know any of this because his mother lies for him

i am so tired and i wont mention it to my t because i dont want to waste precious time with her i feel overwhelmed like punching stuff anger, generalized anxiety borderline personality and major depression what am i supposed to do now

[Perna]

If it distresses you to deal with your in-laws, I would not, let your husband deal with his brother, only?

[mixedup_emotions]

((( sweepy )))

UGH. I can imagine how frustrated you must feel dealing with all that. I know it doesn't take away the feelings right at this moment, but perhaps understanding that it's THEM and not YOU would help. It puts the ownership back on them...and let them keep their drama to themselves.

I recently discontinued a friendship with a toxic person...and of course, she needed to get the last word in. I didn't engage in her nastiness, but it didn't stop her from continuing on....and even though it hurts, I am realizing that she's just way too dysfunctional and damaged. And I simply did not respond. I am in the process of trying to let it all go...which, too, is hard. But it's worth it, because I already feel myself a little lighter emotionally....The weight of that turmoil is not good for you.

[stopdog]

I would block her texts and emails and refuse to engage with her by deflecting it back to your husband and his brother. Also, can you just delete stuff from her without reading it?