[CantExplain]

Aaaaaaaargh! I wrote a whole page but the computer ate it. Nooooooooo!

There should be an "uneat" button.

It was good stuff, too!

[CantExplain]

I don't have the heart to try again.

Originally Posted by CantExplain

I don't have the heart to try again.

That is so disappointing....

[CantExplain]

Here is the main point:

"What does it mean, you can't bear it?"
This was a simple request for information. Was I angry, sad, frightened, or what?
It was triggering because it looked like it was undermining my reason for leaving the bad group. I needed a watertight reason because:
1) T had encouraged me to stay.
2) I left without giving notice. (I hadn't reveled this before.)
I felt that only the strongest reason could justify breaking the rules and going against T's advice.

Originally Posted by CantExplain

Here is the main point:

"What does it mean, you can't bear it?"
This was a simple request for information. Was I angry, sad, frightened, or what?
It was triggering because it looked like it was undermining my reason for leaving the bad group. I needed a watertight reason because:
1) T had encouraged me to stay.
2) I left without giving notice. (I hadn't reveled this before.)
I felt that only the strongest reason could justify breaking the rules and going against T's advice.

I've read some of your previous threads...but may not have read all of them but I just want to say that my T. keeps wanting me to join a group therapy that he runs and I've pretty much said it won't ever happen and basically had a hissy fit when he recommended it...his comment was that when a client reacts to something he suggests like that, he thinks that is what they really need.

I have a lot of respect for you giving it a try. I'm not sure I could subject myself to something that would be a real struggle for me... would really take me out of my comfort zone... but I guess that is why T thinks its just what I need...

Hope you are able to come to a place where you can process all that has happened and find a way to learn something from it...

Originally Posted by CantExplain

Here is the main point:

"What does it mean, you can't bear it?"
This was a simple request for information. Was I angry, sad, frightened, or what?

Is this a statement your T made in reference to you wanting to leave?

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by Readytostop

I've read some of your previous threads...but may not have read all of them but I just want to say that my T. keeps wanting me to join a group therapy that he runs and I've pretty much said it won't ever happen and basically had a hissy fit when he recommended it...his comment was that when a client reacts to something he suggests like that, he thinks that is what they really need.

I have a lot of respect for you giving it a try. I'm not sure I could subject myself to something that would be a real struggle for me... would really take me out of my comfort zone... but I guess that is why T thinks its just what I need...

Hope you are able to come to a place where you can process all that has happened and find a way to learn something from it...

Ah! But that was the bad group. The good group was the one with my T in it. I really felt at home there. It was the family I never had. I grieved when that group came to an end.

I went to the second group in the hope of recapturing those feelings. It just didn't happen. The closest I have ever got since, is here at PC.

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by lost in termination

Is this a statement your T made in reference to you wanting to leave?

I had already left. But yes, it was that group that I "couldn't bear".

[Sannah]

Originally Posted by CantExplain

"What does it mean, you can't bear it?"
This was a simple request for information. Was I angry, sad, frightened, or what?
It was triggering because it looked like it was undermining my reason for leaving the bad group. I needed a watertight reason because:
1) T had encouraged me to stay.
2) I left without giving notice. (I hadn't reveled this before.)
I felt that only the strongest reason could justify breaking the rules and going against T's advice.

Good work! So you reacted because you didn't want to be "caught"?

[Perna]

It obviously was not the right group for you at this time! Ask your T if s/he has more choices up her/his sleeve

Next time, maybe try to work with the situation in front of you, itself, instead of trying to make it into something else (trying to recapture feelings form a different group/situation). It looks like you did learn quite a bit from this experience? I'm very sorry it was a hard and painful way to learn.

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by Perna

It obviously was not the right group for you at this time! Ask your T if s/he has more choices up her/his sleeve

Next time, maybe try to work with the situation in front of you, itself, instead of trying to make it into something else (trying to recapture feelings form a different group/situation). It looks like you did learn quite a bit from this experience? I'm very sorry it was a hard and painful way to learn.

I tried to connect to that group in all sorts of ways. Nothing worked.

[CantExplain]

I'm still feeling a bit triggered.
Having trouble standing down from battle stations.

[Chopin99]

Originally Posted by CantExplain

I'm still feeling a bit triggered.
Having trouble standing down from battle stations.

Sorry...I hate being triggered too.