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Jan 30, 2012 at 12:30 PM
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So my T strongly suggested that I see a Pdoc again to get back on meds-so I set up an appointment for Wednesday. T said he really wanted to talk to pdoc...so I had emailed him on Friday to tell him about appointment and to ask how it should work for him to talk with pdoc.i never heard back-so I emailed again last night to say I was feeling really blah about having to see pdoc again-and that I have such difficulty in saying certain things-and would he promise to call and tell him the things we talked about. T wrote back today and said "That will be fine. I will try to set aside a time tomorrow to get in touch with him. I will see you tonight" for some reason I feel like T is annoyed or doesn't really want to call-I need him to do this for me...to support me in this-and I don't want him to be all talk about it...but to actually do this...I know he is busy...but he was the one that said he wanted to do this...and with the message back I just read annoyance or something... : (
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Jan 30, 2012 at 12:31 PM
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I know I can bring it up this evening...but I don't want it to take up too much time either...
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Jan 30, 2012 at 12:46 PM
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Honestly, unless there was more to his reply than you are giving us, there is absolutely nothing in his reply that seems like he is annoyed with you. Is that just your fear at this moment?
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Jan 30, 2012 at 12:53 PM
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You probably feel like you're over burdening him and thats why his reply feels the way it does to you.
I agree with farmergirl. There's nothing in his reply that sounds unusually angry or upset or annoyed. BUT, if it still bothers you, can't you tell him that you're worried maybe you're asking too much of him and see how he responds. You ahve to be willing to listen to his answer though..... even if it is, "This really is no problem, don't worry about it." |
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Jan 30, 2012 at 01:08 PM
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I think it comes down to this fear-Worry that a male will actually keep his promise..gah that I am important enough..or that I'm not too much...T's response was just a little shorter than normal...no smiley face after the see you tonight and it sent me into panic...
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Jan 30, 2012 at 03:45 PM
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He might have been distracted or in a hurry, or something entirely unrelated to you might have been bothering him...lots of reasons for a shorter reply, or there might not be any negative reason at all. I truly understand the panicking over small things like that because I do the same thing, but from an outsider's perspective, I really do not think he's annoyed with you at all. You are important enough, and I'm sure he will do as he promised. Let us know how it goes
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Jan 30, 2012 at 06:45 PM
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For example, "We'll talk about this in my office later" looks neutral on the surface, but it could actually be a public reprimand and a threat of further punishment. When I remember (!), I always try to be warmer than neutral. __________________ Mr Ambassador, alias Ancient Plax, alias Captain Therapy, alias Big Poppa, alias Secret Spy, etc. Add that to your tattoo, Baby! |
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Jan 30, 2012 at 06:49 PM
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That would make me a little down. The part about "try to set aside" would freak me out and make me feel like I was being a burden. I am positive it wasn't meant that way at all, but it sounds like you worry about being a burden too. You're not. Your therapist wants to talk to your pdoc. He said so.
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Jan 30, 2012 at 07:33 PM
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So I got back from session a little while ago-and I feel so much better...it was tough to get it out there-to ask him if he was annoyed or frustrated and he said absolutely not-it really is a time constraint issue-he has clients all day-but he said he would call on his lunch to see if he can touch base with pdoc...and he said he does want to be in communication with pdoc-so he is going to do his best : ). He said in a perfect world he would go to the appointment with me! Hehe! He said he still has about 50 emails he has to get to-so it made me feel special he took the time to answer mine! thank y'all for responding!!!
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Jan 30, 2012 at 08:30 PM
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So glad it went well delicate!
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Jan 30, 2012 at 09:53 PM
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Thanks for the update, I'm really glad to hear everything is fine and you're feeling better
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