[Out_of_denial]

I have been seeing a new T since the beginning of the month since my exT abondoned me in November. She's never said a word about it no matter how much I said how it was hurting extra bad because she wouldn't at the very least even acknowledge me. It was so horrible and painful.

I think I really like my new T. Plus she's the director of the T's, so she knows who I am talking about. The thing is that while i don't hurt about it anymore, it does keep popping up.

So, I sent her a note. The subject line said Just a quick note...
to let you know that your need to slink away has left me with an ENORMUS burden and a HUGE obstacle to my healing. Both are completely unfair and unnecessary.
I don’t know how you live with yourself, but at the very leastI hope you’ve changed your M.O. to one that reflects yourabsolute disregard for your clients mental health and your lack of therapeutic common sense.
I didn't expect a answere, but I got one.
Hello Amy,
My understanding is that you are seeing Joy now. Is that true?
Peace, Holly

The woman is really clueless. I never wanted to know her M.O., but she volunteered it anyway as someone that doesn't give up on people.

Do you think this was meant to undermine my feelings? The reason she won't ask Joy herself is because she only uses her office a few hours a week but she won't let anyone share it.

I think at this point I really think she shouldn't be a T. and I dislike her greatly. Can I make a complaint to the State? I mean I know I can, but do they care?

Amy

[rainbow8]

I'm sorry that I've forgotten the details of your exT leaving you though I know you posted a lot about it. I would be devastated by an email like that but I don't think it's uncommon for a T to disregard the content of an email once she's not your T anymore. She knows she doesn't have to deal with you so she writes something neutral to show you that she's out of the picture because you have a new T. It sucks, though.

I don't think she was trying to undermine your feelings. She was just giving a neutral, uninvolved reply. She probably wasn't really asking you if you are seeing Joy. She probably already very well knows that. Basically her question is a statement that she understands you have another therapist right now (probably implying that you need to speak to your current therapist about this at this point since she is no longer your therapist.) What reply were you looking for?

[Out_of_denial]

I wasn't looking for any reply. We never spoke after she dissapeared and I was without a T for 2 months, so during that time she was still technically my T still and didn't have one care about what she was doing to me.

I totally understand the reasons behind such a reply. To do that though, she had to hurt me. It's SO hard to not have any closure with this.

She just wants to know who to pass my file too. She's kept it all this time instead of returning it to the clinic. It's this kind of crap that keeps this going. I hate her.

I am so sorry. This sounds like a reply my ex t would give. Its like she didnt even acknowledge what you wrote at all.