never mind... momentary regression... I'm back to my real age now..

[kitten16]

I haven't followed your entire story with this T, but I imagine that he's concerned about you. It's possible it sounds to him like there are underlying problems that haven't been addressed by the two of you yet, and that your sudden need to get away without a wrap-up was a sign to him that something's really amiss. And your email message confirmed this.

If he's a good T, he won't want to give up at this point. He cares about you, and - let's face it, Ts are human - he's got professional pride. If you end it abruptly, he's going to feel like your course of therapy has failed. You're departing unhappy, and it makes him feel incompetent.

So I imagine that in this reply he sent you, he's doing his best to re-win your trust and get you back in the fold, at least long enough to figure out exactly why you've been frustrated.

You should open the message and post what he says! I think he either wants you to continue, or is requesting a final session for closure. (Sounds like he needs it more than you do, LOL)

If after reading his message you still don't want to return to therapy, it's entirely up to you. Therapy isn't jail. If he's not the right helper for you, and you're sure of this, then TO THE CURB with him!

Thanks Kitten...thought I deleted it before anyone read it... I did finally open it... I don't think rewinning my trust is high on his list ... I knew i couldn't be honest with him... his response below is cold and distant.. and now I am a case... thought it ironic that he quotes a article on this web site...

There are several reasons to meet to discuss possible termination. While I won’t discuss issues specific to your case, I have included a link that I think does a fair job in discussing the process of ending therapy. I hope the article helps. I will hold the appointment for you until tomorrow. Take care.

http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2009/05/27/termination-10-tips-when-ending-psychotherapy/

[pbutton]

Woah a PC link. That would shock me a bit. I would be so tempted to say " I have included a link that I think does a fair job in discussing the process of ending MY therapy. I hope the article helps" and then link him to your other thread.

I don't really read his response as distant. He does say possible termination & he is holding your appointment for you.

[Sannah]

Ready, I think that you might be projecting all sorts of things into his response. I don't think his response is bad at all.

Originally Posted by Sannah

Ready, I think that you might be projecting all sorts of things into his response. I don't think his response is bad at all.

Okay good I'm glad you think so because I decided to go to the last session. I don't want it to go badly. I just want T to respect my decision because it is mine to make. It will definitely be the last session.

Originally Posted by Sannah

Ready, I think that you might be projecting all sorts of things into his response. I don't think his response is bad at all.

I kind of agree with that. You really need to speak with face to face in order to get an accurate idea of what he is saying.

[stopdog]

Originally Posted by Readytostop

Okay good I'm glad you think so because I decided to go to the last session. I don't want it to go badly. I just want T to respect my decision because it is mine to make. It will definitely be the last session.

Good luck