[MysteryGurl]

This may seem like a dumb post.

I am in a newly started relationship with a T( not my T) but I just want to know what its like, like what can be expected down the road. Does he bring his work home with him do they get depressed from work etc etc

[pachyderm]

Psychologists are probably people too. Each one is different.

[MysteryGurl]

What I can say to those who feel Ts don't love them, I can safely say that this T does. He often tells of how much he loves his clients and that he wants them to do well. He uses the word love a lot when talking about them. So this really helps me in my relationship with my T. I know that she loves me even if she doesn't say it.

[Chopin99]

He is just a person, like you and me. It's great that he loves his clients. I think most T's actually do. I wish you the best!

[Silent_tsol]

Originally Posted by pachyderm

Psychologists are probably people too.

I am married to a therapist. All his friends are Ts. I can promise you that they are just regular people

[MysteryGurl]

Mine seems regular but is very stressed atm and to busy with work stuff. Just wanting to know if this is to be expected

[MysteryGurl]

I think my guy needs a vacation or to see a T himself, he is not talking care of himself

[roads]

I've never known a really effective therapist who didn't have a therapist. That used to be standard practice.

Anyone else?

[growlycat]

Originally Posted by Roadie

I've never known a really effective therapist who didn't have a therapist. That used to be standard practice.

Anyone else?

My T used to have a T, but long before I started seeing him

I am a master's level psychologist (providing individual and group therapy to adolescents) who is in a long term relationship with a "significant other" who is a practicing psychiatrist. Believe me, he and I are just like everyone else when it comes to taking out the garbage, getting the oil changed, remembering birthdays/Valentines's day, or making sure the kids/grandkids get to "whatever sports practice they're suppose to be at"! Relax and let the relationship unfold in whatever way it is suppose to!

jaybird you have ruined the fantasy for me..

nah! it was ruined before that! i know my t is human...i actually never see her around town..i take pains to give her space since my gym is near her gym, i grocery shop in the same store etc...so i make sure i try to go on days when she doesn't..i feel it's the least i can do...i don't need her looking in my cart & her the same..

but i know she sees me schlepping around town driving dogs hither & yon delivering them home from their athletic play periods & i do see her doing the same for her kids...altho since my big ugly van is way more noticeable than her mommy-mobile she sees me way more than i see her!

Funny thing is, stumpy, when I "REALLY" engaged in my own therapy I ruined my own fantasy of what mental health was. I was a good little soldier in undergrad when I initiated my own therapy . . . and then when I got into grad I got serious and tried to engage . . . really engage in therapy . . . ooooo how hard that has been and is now! The only good part is knowing that the wonderful and caring partner that I have also struggles with his own issues LOL It doesn't take away from his commitment, compassion and intellect . .. any more than it takes away from mine. . . .actually, I think it adds so much to his commitment, compassion and intellect! We are good at what we do ... just human! Sometimes it makes me so sad to hear that people believe that the only people that can "help" are the normal . . . reality in my book is that those who are flawed are the one's who offer the steadiest and most compassionate hand.. . .you have to know that the hand that is offered is one that is scarred and pitted, but it's one that is real.

[MysteryGurl]

Last time I spoke with him he was saying he was running on empty and just wanted a break from all these problems. Maybe he does have His own T but isnt taking care of himself.

Thanks Jaybird this was very helpful, mine is a PHD adolesant Psychologist.

I will just take it easy like you say and see where this goes.

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by SarahMichelle

I am married to a therapist. All his friends are Ts. I can promise you that they are just regular people

Connecting the dots...

You are surrounded by Ts and know that they are just regular people.

But your T is so special you pine on her porch for six whole months when she goes away.

There are lots of ways to interpret this, but it seems to me that Ts put something magical into their client relationships that friends and family never see.

Not sure why the snarky remark there, cant explain. Yes my t is special. I wasnt pining on her porch, i missed her enormously considering that while she was gone i wad raped and had 2 people i loved die and couldnt tell anyone about what was going on.
However i am aware she is very human. Shes often late, sometimes tired and grumpy, says dumb things on occassipn,shes just like everyone else in the world.

[stopdog]

Originally Posted by CantExplain

There are lots of ways to interpret this, but it seems to me that Ts put something magical into their client relationships that friends and family never see.

I would only call it magical when I am frustrated and the therapist won't explain. I have not felt magic from a therapist at all, but the feeling that others describe with their therapists seem to come from the focus being solely on the needs of the client for the period of time they are in the appointment. That not only would be hard (impossible) to sustain in real life - it would be exceedingly unhealthy for anyone to do with spouses, children and friends etc.

[unaluna]

Originally Posted by CantExplain

There are lots of ways to interpret this, but it seems to me that Ts put something magical into their client relationships that friends and family never see.

I don't think this was meant to be snarky, but just an acknowledgement of the difference between T as T and T as mate.

CE may have spoken somewhat dramatically in describing the situation, but let us look beyond that to the months of eloquent support he has given us all, including the rest of this post?

[pbutton]

I think the pine on the porch thing was the part that came through as a bit... over the top.

[unaluna]

yabbut right now it is CE who is pining on the porch, as his T is out of commission, so that may have been more about himself, subconsciously...

[WePow]

My mentor is a retired T. And he is just a person :-) He is actually a very wonderful person. But he is just a guy who has his own issues. LOL.

My S/O has her degree in psychology, but she is not a T. And she is a person :-)

My T has his own T. Thankfully, he is open about stuff that goes on with him as I get to see him as a human. That is wonderful because it gives me good hope that I can also be a contributor to humanity even though I have issues. lol.

I think that people who are in service to others (be it a T, a firefighter, a police officer, a teacher, or just a hard working person who takes care of their family), well I think those people are sorta awesome for just being who they are.

[Velvet Cactus]

Originally Posted by Roadie

I've never known a really effective therapist who didn't have a therapist. That used to be standard practice.

Anyone else?

It still is. What I would give for those case notes!

[Velvet Cactus]

Originally Posted by WePow

My mentor is a retired T. And he is just a person :-) He is actually a very wonderful person. But he is just a guy who has his own issues. LOL.

My S/O has her degree in psychology, but she is not a T. And she is a person :-)

My T has his own T. Thankfully, he is open about stuff that goes on with him as I get to see him as a human.
I think that people who are in service to others (be it a T, a firefighter, a police officer, a teacher, or just a hard working person who takes care of their family), well I think those people are sorta awesome for just being who they are.

More often than not T's have walked the walk and want to ease the suffering of others that they went through. From suffering comes empathy. Something this world needs more of!

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by SarahMichelle

Not sure why the snarky remark there, cant explain. Yes my t is special. I wasnt pining on her porch, i missed her enormously considering that while she was gone i wad raped and had 2 people i loved die and couldnt tell anyone about what was going on.
However i am aware she is very human. Shes often late, sometimes tired and grumpy, says dumb things on occassipn,shes just like everyone else in the world.

I never meant to hurt you. And I was only slightly teasing you.

I'm very sorry.