[lostmyway21]

I want I make something special for T but I can't figure out what it should be. I was hoping to get some creative ideas on here? I've been with T for almost a year and I've made significant progress from day one. I want to show him how thankful I am for all his support; consistancy and patience. He really always has went above and beyond with me through the unstable chaos I've brought to him. I am so appreciative that he's such a caring, professional T...I'd like to make him something to show him. I just don't know what...

I'm sure something that represents your time together will come to mind.

[lostmyway21]

I'm totally running a blank. It probably hasent helped I recently quit all my meds. Anyway... Anyone want to share things they have given there T? May spark an idea for me.

I'm not a person who tends to make things, so I don't have many suggestions. I've heard a few people talk about making a collage to represent something: pictures, words, images, etc. that speak to you.

[WikidPissah]

You text/email frequently, a collage of different sized words in different fonts might be nice.

[kiki86]

well do you have any little jokes between you? i made an embroidery for my T which sort of represented a running joke we have between us.

[Chopin99]

I have written T 3 poems, made her 2 bracelets, and a necklace and earring set. Do you do any crafts or artwork?

[Big Mama]

I gave my T an aloe plant and wrote a peom comparing the healing qualities of the plant and the healing qualities in her.

[SallyBrown]

The biggest gift I've given my T is a scarf I knit for him, which I gave him after my wedding -- an event that would not have happened if it weren't for his support the whole way there. I considered giving him a bookmark shaped like a butterfly, since that has specific significance between us, when I got my doctorate, but we were having a really horribly rough time then and it didn't feel right.

I've also given him a small clock (nothing fancy or expensive, just functional, because his clock had broken) and I tend to bring him a little bit of whatever I've baked for the week -- I bake a lot, H and I almost never buy baked goods. Once, I baked him a special tin of fancy cookies when I found out he'd had a loss in his family. I also write poems from time to time, but those aren't really gifts -- they could be, though.

I've contemplated potting cuttings of some of my plants, and there is a lucky charm of mine that I intend to give him whenever it comes time for me to leave (an idea I got when I learned that Obama collected lucky charms during the 2008 campaign).

Are there any symbols that come to mind for you? Like the butterfly? If you can think of a few key words, you can shop on Google or Amazon to get ideas for objects that tie into the symbol, and either make something yourself if you've got some creative hobbies, or pick something up if it's not pricey.

The only time that I really became irrational with my current T I realized it soon afterward and felt horribly. This took place in between sessions. I decided that I wanted to bring to our next appt something that was simultaneously saying I'm sorry and it won't happen again. I thought of making her sthg, but I'm not terribly creative. I sleep with a baby blanket--my most cherished possession. I decided to cut of a little piece of it for her bc it has so much meaning to me, it was a 'sacrifice' to give to her, and each time I looked down at the hole in it I'd remember how I have in my life someone who isn't giving up on me--even the irrational me.

[rainbow8]

I've written poems for my T but for her birthday the first year I saw her I made a collage of her appointment cards because they are photos that she took. I drew our hands touching and put that on top of all the cards, then xeroxed the whole picture. She loved it and put it up on her wall.

I think Ts appreciate anything we make for them, as long as they don't have a rule not to accept gifts. It could be something you bake, or something you sew, draw, or write. Or a combination. If you aren't so artistic, a collage of pictures and words that remind you of your special time with him, or how you've progressed is an idea. I'm sure you'll think of something special!

[Perna]

I wrote poems. Too, my T once compared me to her 3 year old granddaughter (that was flattering, NOT :-) so I gave her a couple things relative to that conversation that she could give/use with her granddaughter.

Think about a specific difficult time you have had in the past and figure out some way to represent it in a funny/cheering or caring way so it reminds the two of you how you have changed. I once threw a shoe at a T, for example, so I could have made a planter out of an old shoe and planted a cactus in it :-) or bronzed a shoe and said something about wasn't he glad I did not throw that one, etc.

[Kacey2]

What about a letter telling him about where you have seen growth on which the two of you have been working on? My t liked those the best. You could accompany it with a home made sun catcher for the office with all the big windows.

I made XT a cloth book marker, with jewels on both ends, she liked it. It wasn't very expensive and I bought the cloth and jewels at michaels. Idea from pintrest.

[Towanda]

My gifts to T tend to be more verbal rather than something he can hold. We were talking one time at Christmas, and I told him my gift to him was that I was thankful for our relationship, for the work we did together. I was silent for a moment, and he said, "What are you thinking?" and I said, "You kept me alive - I'm glad I'm here." He got very teary eyed and said, "So am I. "

[Kacey2]

Just a quick question Lost. Do you bring Kaos to all of your t appointments? (Simon has been going to pdoc with me.)

[lostmyway21]

Originally Posted by Kacey2

Just a quick question Lost. Do you bring Kaos to all of your t appointments? (Simon has been going to pdoc with me.)

Um not all. T loves him and gets a kick out of him. But half my appts are a hour and a half away by bus/ferry and 2 trains. That's a long trek for the little guy...so I only bring him about half the time. Kaos loves to come because we go for walks the whole session, so he gets to walk with us or play in the park while we talk.