[healed84]

I go between this being embarrassed and just letting it roll of my shoulders, but I am wondering if anybody else deal with something like this.

I noticed, at probably the 3 or 4 session with T, I left.. looked into a mirror and I was all red and blotchy on my neck and chest. At first, I thought I was having an allergic reaction to a med I had just starting taking, but when I got home and realized it was going away, I figured it wasn't that. It has happend a couple of more times since then during thearpy. Not every time though. On monday, I noticed that I started to get the red blotches while wating for T to call me back and sure enough when I left it was still there.

I have been wearing higher cut shirts, and scarfs to kind of hide it, but I can't always.. lol. I figure it is a nerves type thing, but it is soooo annoying. I do get a bit embarrassed by it as well. Please tell me somebody else deals with something like this at all?????

[learning1]

I haven't had that happen but I generally have so many skin issue, red blotches sound like nothing to me! I am kinda jealous that you must have good enough skin that red blotches would be a noticeable problem I'm sure t's see a lot more difficult to deal with bodily reactions than that.... Still, sorry ur struggling with it.

[Chopin99]

It is totally a anxiety symptom. Happens to me all the time. Many times, I don't even notice it; someone will come up to me and tell me. Bad thing is, there's nothing you can really do to make it stop except be less anxious. Most of the time with me...that ain't happening!

[healed84]

Originally Posted by Chopin99

It is totally a anxiety symptom. Happens to me all the time. Many times, I don't even notice it; someone will come up to me and tell me. Bad thing is, there's nothing you can really do to make it stop except be less anxious. Most of the time with me...that ain't happening!

I want it to stop!!!! Well, I suppose since it is an anxiety thing, I am hoping T is used to seeing people show up in his office with red blotches.. lol.

[Chopin99]

Originally Posted by healed84

I want it to stop!!!! Well, I suppose since it is an anxiety thing, I am hoping T is used to seeing people show up in his office with red blotches.. lol.

Are you caucasian? If so, do you have a fair skin tone with pinkish undertones? I do and my mom does and we both break out that way when anxious.

I get the impression that T's have seen it all unless they are brand-spanking new!

[karebear1]

I don't break out in blotches, but when I started therapy I developed a twitch in my left eye. IT DROVE ME CRAZY... and only happened when I was around my T. I put up with it for a couple of weeks , then finally, out of sheer frustration told T how therapy was making me crazy and that I'd even developed a twitch in my eye. Do you wanna know what her response was?? "Oh- I hadn't really noticed." Yeah... right!

You know what the great thing is about that story??? AS soon I I told T about it, it stopped and I haven't had a twitch in that eye in 2 years!

[vanessaG]

I'm sure T has seen it before! It is embarrasing tho!

I'm white but with a naturally tan..I guess olive-ish skin tone. I turn red....I mean really red sometimes and I can feel it. I get hot. I looked in the bathroom after one session & I was like holy ****! How embarrasing.

Hopefully T's forget by next session lol

[bazza12]

The EXACT same thing happens to me almost every session. I couldn't figure out what it was until I went to my doctor (thinking it was a skin rash) and she told me it was anxiety. I should have figured as much.
But I'm still trying to figure out how to make it stop, too. I've tried makeup that's supposed to calm skin and that's actually helped a lot. When I'm in session though, and my T and I start talking about heavy issues, that's when I can feel my neck starting to itch and my face getting redder and redder. And then when I'm aware of it happening, I feel so self conscience and it's just horrible. Ugh. But on the bright side, if we talk about nothing major, my face looks normal. Haha. Can you can pinpoint when yours starts? Maybe you'll find some answers there. You'll have to let me know if you figure out any other tips on this because it's such a major annoyance!!

[peaches100]

Healed84,

I do the EXACT same thing when i get too nervous! It doesn't happen at every t session. But if we talk about something very upsetting, it happens. My t told me that it's one of the things she has consistently noticed about me. So i guess she knows when i'm getting too worked up. It actually happned yesterday at my session.

I think it's embarrassing too. If i know I'm going to have to do something that is going to make me very nervous (like giving a public speech), i wear a turtleneck or some other shirt that covers my chest and neck.

I notice that once the anxiety recedes, the blotches disappear within about 20 minutes.

[LindenTree]

I don't get blotches, but if I'm trying to hold back something upsetting or difficult to talk about my face gets very very red - I can always feel my cheeks heating up! It's embarrassing, but I actually kind of like it because my T uses it as a cue to give me a little push (or not) without me having to say anything.

[critterlady]

Originally Posted by LindenTree

I don't get blotches, but if I'm trying to hold back something upsetting or difficult to talk about my face gets very very red - I can always feel my cheeks heating up! It's embarrassing, but I actually kind of like it because my T uses it as a cue to give me a little push (or not) without me having to say anything.

I have this same thing happen! I always feel like I have a fever when I leave my T's office. He hasn't said anything yet, but I'm sure he notices.

[Sannah]

I have actually gotten comfortable with embarrassment. When you are sensitive and allow yourself to be vulnerable it happens. I remember when I just wanted it to go away too and then I realized that I just had to get comfortable with it. The other day at our dinner table my husband made a comment after I mentioned something about my past and this made me feel vulnerable to my core and I turned really red but instead of dying from embarrassment I just accepted that this happened. You can joke about it by saying "gee, it's getting really hot in here and laugh".

[beautiful.mess]

Like Chopin said, it's anxiety. I get that too.

[healed84]

Well, its a bit comforting to know that I am not the only person that deals with it. At first, I was okay with it.. now as it happens more... I find it harder to roll with it. Although, it does make sense the deeper we go, the more anxious and nervous I get about it and it mainfests itself in a physical way.

[rainbow8]

I used to blush all the time I went to see my male internist. A dermatologist told me I had roseacea and gave me a prescription ointment. I think it's mostly anxiety, though. I don't blush when I see him lately but that may be because I used to think I had to take off my underwear but I don't have to. Sorry if that's TMI.

I didn't blush with my T until we got started with all of this body/shame/sex stuff. Last session my face got red and I thought I had a fever. My T told me she didn't think it was so red. In any case, these physical reactions are normal if we are anxious or embarrassed. My T is interested in how my body reacts so to her, it would be useful information!! For me, it shows how much shame I have about these issues.

I think Ts and doctors are used to reactions like these and it doesn't bother them.

[sittingatwatersedge]

By the end of the hour I know my face is so red... I can feel that it is. Should we clasp hands at the end of the hr, T mentions how warm my hands are. I feel like saying, well YES, and my face is red too - but I never say it.

I need to find out where I put that therapy burqa.

[precious things]

I dont have the skin issue but my stomach makes loud, like really loud, noises. Whenever there is that awkward pause you can hear it swooshing and gurgling away.

[rainbow8]

I get that sex reaction which is due to intensity and anxiety, I decided. She can't see but I TELL her. I know I'm going overboard but the pendulum with my TMI has to swing too much to one side and then it will go back to the middle. I hope. Right now I'm like a kid saying "dirty words" and seeing if it's all right or not. With T, it's all right.

[pbutton]

Originally Posted by precious things

I dont have the skin issue but my stomach makes loud, like really loud, noises. Whenever there is that awkward pause you can hear it swooshing and gurgling away.

I get this too!!!!!!

[mcl6136]

I get blotches. It isn't my favorite thing about me but I'm getting more used to it. Sometimes a shirt with a collar is a blessing!

blotches aren't that uncommon!

My stomach does the weird noise thing and I once had to bolt from the room to throw up.

[critterlady]

Originally Posted by My kids are cool

My stomach does the weird noise thing and I once had to bolt from the room to throw up.

I came close to having to do that once, when I first disclosed CSA. It's a good thing I ended up not having to, because the bathroom was on the next floor down. I never would have made it.

[granite1]

i blush big time.sometimes my T will ask if i am ok because i get so red i would just shake my head.she no longer askes me.i figure she must know i just tend to blush easily

I don't get blotches but my stomach makes loud noises during all my T sessions. I get very embarrased but T's probably seen and heard enough to know it's probably uncomfortable for the client.

[karebear1]

OMG! Reading this thread has started my eye to twitching again!