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Apr 07, 2012, 06:31 PM
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Do you ever feel after some sessions there's a sense of disconnect? Like, right now, i don't feel any attachment to my T. We had a perfectly nice session felt more like friends talking, nothing heavy was discussed. It was first session back after a brief break. I was really missing her but now after our session... i don't feel much at all, i could easily not go back ever.
Feels strange to not need her. Why does this happen, how can we go from deeply involved in therapy to just feeling like you could take or leave it. How do u manage the disconnect? |
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Apr 07, 2012, 06:36 PM
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I had a long disconnect and I did not manage it well. We had to rupture and repair.
But looking back, I think I was angry with my T but didn't tell her. Could that be the issue for you?
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Apr 07, 2012, 06:48 PM
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I always feel like this. and my answer is, i'm not allowed to be angry. why should I be angry? it's ridiculous to be angry. T has his own life, I KNOW that. I do not want to appear silly. besides, if i'm angry my mother will kill me, so I must always be happy. not a lot of wiggle room there. also no connection. thanks for the insight, CE. nothing ventured, nothing gained. he sits there waiting for me to talk and I just evade. what am I waiting for.
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Apr 07, 2012, 06:59 PM
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I'm experiencing this right now. I was missing T all week and then had an appointment Thursday, and since then I've kind of been like "Meh, whatever."
I'm trying to go back a read a copy of this letter I gave her a few weeks ago about how much I like her. That reminds me a bit of how I know I'd probably end up feeling if I really did never get to see her again. Do you have anything that reminds you of how you have usually felt? |
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Apr 07, 2012, 07:43 PM
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Apr 07, 2012, 07:45 PM
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i suppose i could look back at my journal. Thanks |
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Apr 07, 2012, 08:24 PM
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I ahve heard there can be waxing and waning and it is a usual thing to happen. I am sorry you are missing the connection, but I think it will come back.
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Apr 07, 2012, 10:07 PM
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I think some of that is normal.....and could even be a sign of a more secure attachment, perhaps, that you don't feel such a heavy need/dependency, and you feel like you can exist separately from someone, even though you miss them when apart.
Also, a feeling like that can be a product of a lighter session in which nothing deeply emotional was touched on. But that doesn't mean the connection isn't there....just that maybe underneath you had the expectation of feeling more of a connection or something more deeply, so what you feel seems like disconnect....when it could just be a less intense, but still just as real, of a connection. If you haven't seen T for a while, maybe a light connection, touching base type of session was good before a heavier one? |
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Apr 08, 2012, 01:15 AM
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