I initially posted this in another thread. But then I thought why not... I did edit it a bit to make sure it was aimmed at the correct audience.... What do you think? See below...



There are groups on here who cater to younger members searching for a mentor or mother / father figure, those can be helpful. I personally am on a very long journey of my own, but would be willing to mentor or big sibling, via web, text, chat sessions, FaceTime , Skype and email ( all depending on a connection) etc... be willing to assist in limited parenting or life coaching. I love helping people.. Like a buddy system. I would also enjoy someone to be a buddy for me. Just wondered if anyone else might think this may be a good idea or not? Is there an interest? Kind of like an AA sponsor, from a consenting pair of individuals who will mutually benefit from and in turn, grow from, a safe relationship of sorts. As they will determine the boundaries. We are all like minded individuals, those of us with therapist may think this is a good idea. I think mine would. And age should not matter, as in I'm 38 and maybe my "Healing Partner" is 56 , thats ok. Perhaps one needs to parent and ones needs to raise a child. My children are both grown, youngest a junior in college and my eldest has 2 of her own , girl is 5 and 19 months boy... And one due in July, a girl. I would join in RL but I'm a lesbian and I am afraid that in Texas that would be a hell no, my partner is a teacher and it would probably get her fired. But perhaps someone who can't do it in RL needs that same help. Just a thought, Wisdom sometimes comes from the mouths of babes ...and life experience is an unteachable knowledge that one can only purely pass down through words in a mere story...but it plants a seed.

Be kind to each other, as carma has a way of seeing everything. LOL

No opnions? After I wrote it I thought some of us probably already do this without thinking about it . Silly me, allergy meds and Ativan then the yard = too much running through the ole head. I have t developed a buddy relationship but would like to think I am beginning to... Too much info? DOTM sorry

[stopdog]

I have not responded because I did not understand. Sorry.

Like maybe you and I have a bunch in common so maybe through multi media we can connect on a deeper level in a very safe relationship to explore and grow from each ones experience... Like Pc buddies , no worries I can be crazy sometimes

[geez]

Lola I'm not interested in chatting outside of PC but I find I both give and receive help from others especially in chat.... after a while you get to 'know' people even if only on PC.

[unaluna]

I do like geez says, but pm's; my phone doesn't chat. I dunno how good this could work here, everybody tested dismissive avoidant or fearful anxious

True, not every idea is a great one and I never meant to meet in person.

[ManicDad]

Lola, I've been lurking on this board for a while. I personally think its a good idea. I don't mind chatting outside of PC, but I don't think I would be comfortable with phone calls or texts. Emails or IMs or PMs would be fine with me. I'm all for having an accountability partner, someone to encourage me and someone I can encourage too. I'm just about to start with a new T do this could be a good thing for me. A fresh start with a new T, a new outlook and a new friend. Hit me up if u wanna talk.

[redbull]

I just posted on another thread about pming someone before I saw this..

I don't know how I would be able to help anyone, a lot of times I'm at a loss for words in a normal conversation but I would do my best to keep things positive..

I would really like someone to pm about some of my struggles though.

Exactly....find someone you having something in common with and go forth and prosper

I have actually done this with a couple of people I met here on PC. We keep in touch through emails from time to time and have talked on the phone. Its not something we do that often. It depends on what we are going through. I think it can be a very good thing, but its very scary as well. We had to take our time easing into it. You have to build a very strong trust with this person. It worked out well for us, but it is something to seriously think about before you disclose that much with someone else.

I think a chat would be nice. I have wanted to be a part of one. Even tried to get a poll on who would be interested. Just didn't get alot of response, so I dropped it. If you set one up, and the time is convenient for me, I would join in.

we like the idea