I saw 1st T for 7 years. Was very attached to her. Kept going because she always said i was " stuck". She always told me how hard i was, so difficult. She promised not to leave me but dumped me w/ out warning anyway.
Have seen new t for 2 years.
We have had 3 very intense sessions this week ( granted each was about 3-4 hrs long) . And in those 3 sessions alone, my t managed to get to the bottom of 2 of my core issues- the cutting and anorexia. In 3 sessions. Which 1st T couldnt do in 7 years.
Dang.
I am not blaming just 1st T. I think i was probably not as ready to be so bluntly honest back then. And i still have sooooo far to go. It is just weird,& amazing.
Last nights session was especially good. We talked about attachment and trauma. Tonight when i get home from work i will write more about that.

It's nice to see the progress, isn't it? Good for you.

[Perna]

I'm really glad you have finally gotten a T that can help!

[CantExplain]

Well done!

But here's another way of looking at it:
Nine years' preparation went into those three sessions of success.

Originally Posted by CantExplain

Well done!

But here's another way of looking at it:
Nine years' preparation went into those three sessions of success.

I hadn't ever thought of it that way, thanks!

I am still trying to process last night's session. I wanted to share it and get thoughts on it, but now I don't know how.

[Kacey2]

Awe SaraMichelle,
I am really glad you were able to have a healing week with t. It sounds like t invested a lot of time into you this week and I am very happy to hear that because you deserve it after waiting such a long time and then having a second go around of her leaving. What a sigh of relief to hear you are back in good, solid, caring hands.

[Chopin99]

I'm so glad T is back and now you are having really good, progress-making sessions. It's a good feeling isn't it?

[peridot28]

SarahMichelle, I totally relate to what you're saying. I saw my first therapist from July 1999-2003, took a break because her husband passed away, then went back from 2005-2008. She was not the best therapist around, but she was a good listener. I say that with a bit of a snarkiness, because that is ALL she did, sit and listen. She didn't have any advice or any guidance to offer me. I got worse with her, but I stuck with her because: 1.) I didn't know any better 2.) I thought she was all I had. She was really my only "therapeutic" support, although not very good.

Now, my present therapist is da-bomb-dot-com.

I started seeing her in June of 2010 and within this year and eight month's time she has brought me so far. She would say she didn't have anything to do with it, because I did all the work. But, OMG, this woman is simply amazing and is wicked smart. She refuses to take any credit and is very modest when receiving compliments. I don't care what she says, (in this instance), she's got skills. She seems to have solutions just built into her brain and she articulates them in a way that you just constantly say, "Wow! Dang girl!"

I saw her today and she dug (gently) until I admitted to being hurt by something that has been happening in my life, instead of allowing me to just blow it off. I left her office with a 100% different perspective and feeling about it. I gained so much relief in my session with her today. Plus, she was wearing my favorite color (yellow) and her hair was super cute, so we chatted about some girly, giggly stuff unrelated to therapy, and it felt great.

My former therapist would have never been able to get me to dig in, to be open and honest, or to even trust her to be the support I needed. I hate to be such a downer about my former therapist, but man, the difference between her and my present therapist is like the difference between Meryl Streep and Paris Hilton; one is an amazing, authentic actress who knows what she's doing, and the other just doesn't give a crap.