[Silent_tsol]

I had a thought reading the other post that wasn't really relevant or helpful to the original poster or the topic at hand. Omg, I think I would flip out and run THROUGH THE DOOR if T locked it. I'm not judging anyone's t who uses this as I'm sure its with the best intention and that they are helpful should someone who should freak out in my manner. But, especially in the beginning, how would one not bolt!?

When I saw a T for the first time for a second opinion, I didn't notice that she locked the door. She was very stern and demanded I sit in a certain chair. Only after our 55 minutes and she unbolted the door, did I freak out and literally run down the stairs.

[healed84]

Yeah, that would freak me out as well.. I would for sure not feel comfortable with T locking the door while we were in session. I appreciate the door being closed but that is it.

[rainboots87]

I felt the same way. As comfortable as I am with T, I would NOT like being locked in a room. It would make me feel very trapped. I've had urges to bolt from session with tough topics, but my T makes me feel safe enough to stay put (that and I'd feel even more uncomfortable/awkward figuring out how to pay & coming back the next week). A locked door, though, would majorly freak me out.

[mortimer]

I'd have to know I could trust them before they could lock it. I'd probably pee my pants if I saw a shrink bolt the door on the first meeting. That's really really scary.

Although I initially felt no emotions when I read this thread, I started to sweat and my hands started to shake when I thought about the door being locked. I think maybe that means I would not like it.

But it's not like they are locking you in though. You can get out a locked door from the inside unless it is bolt locked with a key and the T has taken out the key which seems like an unlikely scenario. Locking the door from the inside just keeps people from barging in.

I know, Chris. It was just a gut level response. Nothing bad would happen to me. I trust my therapist.

I have had to bolt from the room to throw up at least once. And his office is pretty far from the ladies room. I think if I had to pause to unlock the door, I might not have made it in time.

[granite1]

i would freak out also no locks on my T's door.no sighn either

[Silent_tsol]

Calista, I think that its interesting that you didn't notice it being locked. I guess for some reason I saw it as being a whole ordeal of closing and then pulling out a monstrous key to begin the locking process lol.

Maybe if the session was over before I noticed it was locked I could say "oh that was scary but I'm still ok"and be ok with it.

Farmerg, I think its interesting though that I need to be reminded of the direction and purpose of the lock. It just have me the heebie jeebies

[WikidPissah]

no locks....gawd no....YIKES

[suzzie]

(((((((silent_tsol))))))))

i wouldnt like the door locked either.

Originally Posted by Silent_tsol

Calista, I think that its interesting that you didn't notice it being locked. I guess for some reason I saw it as being a whole ordeal of closing and then pulling out a monstrous key to begin the locking process lol.

Maybe if the session was over before I noticed it was locked I could say "oh that was scary but I'm still ok"and be ok with it.

Farmerg, I think its interesting though that I need to be reminded of the direction and purpose of the lock. It just have me the heebie jeebies

Silent tsol I think I was just so nervous seeing this T for the first time and she had started her lecture on "MY CHAIR" (on another thread) that I just blanked. It was a sliding bolt and I had my back turned to her so I didn't notice.

[Chopin99]

I've had 3 T's and none of them have locked the door. I don't know how I'd react. Current T has an "in session" sign that she places on the doorknob. No one has ever walked in on a session of mine.

[Perna]

We were in a business townhouse and the other business (downstairs) was robbed so the T's, mostly women in this practice, started locking the outside door when they were "alone" in the building; I got to T's at the right time sometimes and couldn't get in, had to force myself to knock, knowing she was there (just as hard but in a different way with being locked in, is being locked out!).

I've been in offices too, that were just a tiny "waiting" room and a single office off an apartment building hallway so I could see the door being locked in that situation. Never come across it directly though (besides being locked "out").

no locked door for me either. need to know i can escape at any time,
need that to feel safe

[sittingatwatersedge]

this thread has made me think. I am going to have to ask...

[sunrise]

My T's door is locked but only from the outside so strangers can't barge in. Anyone inside his office can just turn the knob and leave the door. It's not like he has to unlock the door in order for me to leave, which would be awful! You don't have to unlock the door, just turn the knob. It's not like he bolts the door or something, lol. It's kind of like being in a bathroom in your home. The door locks to those on the outside so the person inside has privacy, but the person inside can leave freely at any time. To those who feel their T is locking them in, are you sure you can't just turn the doorknob and leave without having to do anything special to unlock the door?

[black or white]

After I'd had a few dreams about people walking in to the office (contractors, my mom, my husband) my T started locking the door for me. I felt more safe with the door locked. There have been a few difficult sessions where I want to get out of there as quickly as possible and T is very quick to unlock it so that I'm not feeling trapped in. I like the lock