[confused and dazed]

Just got back from T. It was hard for me. T was late for the last two weeks. (T has nver been late in the last 3 yrs ) It was hard for me to take. Also, for the last three years years, t has always said "see ya next week" and T did not say it this week. I'm almost ready to quit... I know it does not make since... but this makes me soooo... sad.... not sure what to do. (I have a standing weekly appointment)

Not sure what I am asking..... just need to vent....srry

[granite1]

i know these little things can be very important and can get to be a big thing if not talked about and checked out. do you think you can ask your T about it or maybe send an e-mail if allowed.maybe your T can reassure you and save you from a week of worry and pain.that is a horrible place to be

[confused and dazed]

Originally Posted by granite1

i know these little things can be very important and can get to be a big thing if not talked about and checked out. do you think you can ask your T about it or maybe send an e-mail if allowed.maybe your T can reassure you and save you from a week of worry and pain.that is a horrible place to be

I can email, but i told T I was not going to email anymore ( about 3 weeks ago) so i do no not want to email... I have a session next week... but I feel dumb about bringing this up.. ... ty for the reply

[WikidPissah]

after perfectly being on time for 3 years and saying "see ya next week" your T is allowed a little blunder now and then right? I am sure T didn't mean anything by it. Try to think of all the positive vibes you got from T...he/she wouldn't suddenly bail on you.

[stopdog]

I would tell the therapist. Sometimes routine, which can be very comforting, gets off for reasons unknown and the therapist may not realize what a comforting ritual it is for you, so the change means nothing to the therapist, even though it means a great deal to you. I believe a client gets to tell the therapist this sort of thing and expect the therapist to listen.

Originally Posted by confused and dazed

Just got back from T. It was hard for me. T was late for the last two weeks. (T has nver been late in the last 3 yrs ) It was hard for me to take. Also, for the last three years years, t has always said "see ya next week" and T did not say it this week. I'm almost ready to quit... I know it does not make since... but this makes me soooo... sad.... not sure what to do. (I have a standing weekly appointment)

Not sure what I am asking..... just need to vent....srry

That sounds so painful. Feels almost like being dropped. Its the little things that help us feel held. I hope you can talk to T about how you felt. Normally I get to get that "held" feeling again when I manage to speak honestly about these things with T.

[confused and dazed]

thank you all for replying. I will bring this up next week. The funny thing is, that I didn't even know that I 'looked" forward to T's "see ya next week", until it was'nt said. It does feel like I was dropped, or at the least, I am not as important to T as i was... I wish it was next week already.. (or that I was not so stubborn and just email T)

Thank you!

[pbutton]

I had something like this happen when T didn't walk me to the door. Thanks to the people here, I ended up emailing him about it. He was great. It had nothing to do with me & it was a load off of my mind.