[carla.cdt]

I was at the gym today. At the end of it I went back to the changing room to have a shower and change.
When I entered the shower area, one of my ex therapist was coming out (she must have been at the pool as i didn't see her at the gym).
The problem is that we were both pretty much not wearing clothes, just carrying a towel and soap and shampoo...
I do not know what to make/think of it. She is a ex therapist, so I can't discuss it at my next session with her. I do not have a therapist right now to talk it out. Should I contact her? We just acknowledge each other by saying hi. Whe I went back to the locker area to change after my shower, she was gone. I wish she would have waited outside to talk it out.
I am scare to go back to the gym. I usually never go on weekends and just go right after work. Never saw her there before....

Any advice?

[noneedtoknow]

Not trying to be mean, but she probably didn't think a whole lot about it. Maybe a quick "I wonder how ---is doing?" Then went on about her business. No one cares much if your seen in the locker room. Just go back to the gym, enjoy what you do and carry on. If you see her again, treat her like anyone else. hi, how are you" and go from there. It's ok. it's ok.

[mazing]

I wouldn't worry about it too much. I know how it could have been embarassing, but as noneedtoknow said, locker rooms are a different environment and I don't think it would cause issue. If you can, I would just continue with your normal gym routines.

[Dreamy01]

Yeah I'm with the others. It's obviously upsetting for you but was probably no big deal to your ex T. She has most likely bumped into other ex/clients before and will be more than used to it. There's really no need to avoid the gym or feel embarrassed.

[bluemountains]

I have had this happen as well except the t is my son's t. She spends a lot of time helping him and all of us work through family problems, plus she works in the same group with my t. The thing that I think is weird is that we don't acknowledge seeing each other outside of the office. I guess it is one of those t things that you don't talk about unless the client brings it up, but I'm not officially the client.
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[carla.cdt]

Thanks for your input,
I did feel I had to contact her... She was my DBT therapist and the queen of boundaries. I really did feel I had cross a boundarie, even if it was unintentionnal...
She was surprised it took me so long to call her, she was expecting a phone the following morning.
She said that it did not bother her as she had seen me there before and knew I was at the same gym then her so that our path would cross at some point. She told me I had not cross a boundarie. She also ask me if I would feel more comfortable if she changed gym. I said no, that our changes of seeing each other is slim, but might happen again.
I aslo asked her if she would contact my pdoc for crossing a boundarie, she said, you didn't hear me, you didn't cross a boundarie. me and my fears and need of reassurance.

[critterlady]

Yeah, that would be awkward. I'm glad you called her and got the affirmation you needed about the boundary issue.

I once saw a therapist a few times and decided she was not the right T for me. I was young and didn't handle it well - I just canceled an appointment and never called back. A few months later, I was at a holistic studies retreat center and she was there. Luckily, she was not in the same workshop I was. Actually, she was in a "self-love" workshop, which was their way of describing a "sex for one" workshop. Now, if I had been in that workshop, that really would have been awkward.

[newtus]

i saw an ex school counselor at a retail store recently. she was just a school counselor that did personal counseling too but i had a lot of breakdowns at that school. my dad stepped in front of me i wonder if she thought i was hiding from her. then i got really paranoid when i my dad moved and she left the aisle.