Pokerface T

shoez · Mar 10, 2012, 06:37 PM

pa pa pa pokerface pa pa pokerface... (really dumb reference to Lady GaGa song )

Uh. I dont know but something wierd happened in T last time...and my T had the pokerface.
and shes been keeping this pokerface a long time...She stilll has her way of soothing with words. But while things were totally NOT normal in session...she was all pokerfacey.The session was Not normal in the sense that she should have had either this face 0_____o or ..... this -->

but instead she was pokerface.

Do they learn pokerface at T school?

(Shes pokerface most of the time but I dont feel her as a robot)

anybody else have a pokerface T? (doesnt have to mean they are like this all the time..but mayb just a time you thought they couldnt do pokerface?)

:P

oh and just in case: (and im not including this as a joke or anything, maybe people really dont know what it means)

poker face
n.
A face lacking any interpretable expression, as that of an expert poker player.(in other words..super serious face ) couldnt find a smiley...

CantExplain · Mar 10, 2012, 06:50 PM

Man I know what this is like. I hate it!

The way I cope these days is to stare her down until she smiles.

I also say, "You can wear that mask if you like, but I still know you love me."

Try looking at her posture. That might tell you more than the face does.

sconnie892 · Mar 10, 2012, 06:51 PM

I don't think I've really seen poker face on my t, but I know exactly the face you mean. I used to have boss like that. It was very difficult to work with her. I could never tell if she was pleased or angry or grumpy or whatever.

unaluna · Mar 10, 2012, 06:56 PM

old pokerface joke:

B: man, I lost a bunch of money to my MIL playing cards last night!
C: Pokerface?
B: No, but I wanted to!

tkdgirl · Mar 10, 2012, 06:59 PM

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Originally Posted by shoez

pa pa pa pokerface pa pa pokerface... (really dumb reference to Lady GaGa song )

I'm a big Lady Gaga fan so this post made me smile, love the reference!

I can't really comment much on my T having a poker face, as this would require me to be looking at her during session

shoez · Mar 10, 2012, 07:03 PM

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Originally Posted by tkdgirl

I'm a big Lady Gaga fan so this post made me smile, love the reference!

I can't really comment much on my T having a poker face, as this would require me to be looking at her during session

lawl!~ teehee.

I look at her sometimes, and she has pokerface..
I bet theres a class in T school that says
Pokerface class- taught by Ben Stein the clear eye commercial guy -

and to CantExplain! Definitely going to try to notice her posture next time! If I can...

Mar 10, 2012, 11:26 PM

"polka face"

sorry couldn't help myself (i think it's reflux from the kielbasi & pierogis i had from dinner

and now i return you to your previously scheduled thread.

stopdog · Mar 10, 2012, 11:33 PM

The one i have gone to is not poker face but tells me I am.

PreacherHeckler · Mar 10, 2012, 11:43 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

The one i have gone to is not poker face but tells me I am.

Stopdog and friends

Mar 10, 2012, 11:44 PM

Yeah, he did the poker face thing when I told him about looking at his facebook page.

We had a previous discussion where I had told him that I rarely sit on a man's lap because of the whole SA thing, and so if I ever sit on my husband's lap it's because I'm desperate to get ****ed. In the facebook pic on his page, his wife is sitting on his lap. So, in discussing looking at his facebook pic, I made some comment about how the whole lapsitting thing probably doesn't mean the same thing in his house that it means in mine, but I still found it upsetting. It took him a second to remember what I meant about the lapsitting thing, and then when he remembered, he lost the poker face and just started laughing and agreed it did not mean that in his house.

Switch · Mar 11, 2012, 12:14 AM

I think all T's do it as a way of staying neutral. Try not to be offended by it Shoez, although I know it's hard to work past. T's try not to let their emotions show because I don't think they know how we're going to react to them showing emotion. I know I got uncomfortable, and thought I was getting judged. With their pokerface they can either hide judgement, or hide sympathy. We can't tell. It's best to assume that they're feeling intense emotions under the surface but don't want us to know that they're just as vulnerable as we are.

Or at least that's what I use to assume of my T. He wasn't so good at the pokerface though... it bugged me when he showed emotion.

(((((Shoez)))))) I hope you're doing alright.

Mar 11, 2012, 12:44 AM

I am appropriately expressive most of the time. If it's a shocking moment, I show shock. If they're excited, I'm excited. If it's sad, concerning, etc, I show that as I feel that with them. They're telling me something emotional, I want to show my genuine reaction in an appropriate matter. I guess the times I do use a poker face when a client shares something that may be a boundary violation for me.

Mar 11, 2012, 08:08 AM

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Originally Posted by stormyangels

I am appropriately expressive most of the time. If it's a shocking moment, I show shock. If they're excited, I'm excited. If it's sad, concerning, etc, I show that as I feel that with them. They're telling me something emotional, I want to show my genuine reaction in an appropriate matter. I guess the times I do use a poker face when a client shares something that may be a boundary violation for me.

Like looking at your facebook page and thinking about punching your wife in the face because she's sitting on your lap? Like that?

stopdog · Mar 11, 2012, 09:57 AM

Sometimes the one I see reacts and then tries to go into poker face without huge success. I have have been seeing her for over a year now - has the woman learned nothing from me?

unaluna · Mar 11, 2012, 10:08 AM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

has the woman learned nothing from me?

That is distressing!!! LOL Seriously, when my T DOES take / learn something from me, is when I have my biggest breakthrus. It's like, I AM worthy.

northgirl · Mar 11, 2012, 10:46 AM

I love this thread because so many times I've sat with my T and tried not to laugh at how hard he tries to keep a poker face. He's a resident, and so many times I can tell when he's forcing himself not to laugh at me when I contradict myself, or say I was lying about something. and there's a few times when i say something and he just totally leaves his professional mode and I don't know, becomes more human to me and smiles and laughs and it makes me feel more comfortable because in some way I actually feel like I'm not talking to a blank face, that is when i have the ability to make eye-contact.

skysblue · Mar 11, 2012, 10:56 AM

I'm lucky - my T is the opposite of poker face. She's so natural but not obtrusive. We laugh a lot in session and she mirrors me very well. When I'm in distress, you can see on her face that she 'feels' it in some way also. Again, not obtrusive but very empathic. Her 'poker face', if you could call it that is when she's concentrating very hard on my attempts to communicate with her but when I'm done talking she responds always very appropriately with just the right amount of very human connection.

sconnie892 · Mar 11, 2012, 11:10 AM

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Originally Posted by stumpy

"polka face"

sorry couldn't help myself (i think it's reflux from the kielbasi & pierogis i had from dinner

and now i return you to your previously scheduled thread.

Stumpy - this made me laugh so hard! I played in a German Band in high school and we actually had to wear costumes like that - except our skirts were a bit longer. Thanks for the the laugh.

CantExplain · Mar 11, 2012, 06:35 PM

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Originally Posted by stormyangels

I guess the times I do use a poker face when a client shares something that may be a boundary violation for me.

Aha! A clue!

But seriously, my T often has a poker face when she's waiting for me to speak. That's a preemptive poker face, which is even more annoying that a non-reaction.

beautiful.mess · Mar 11, 2012, 06:45 PM

My T used to a lot in the beginning. Not so much any more now. Once in a while he will try and pull that crap on me; I try to not think too much into it though.

critterlady · Mar 11, 2012, 08:40 PM

My T has a very expressive face. It's really very nice to see his reactions to things I say - it helps me understand that how I think people will respond to me is not how they necessarily will.

healed84 · Mar 11, 2012, 08:43 PM

T does not have a poker face.. He is very expressive, for the most part. I think it is a little more straight faced when the topic gets a little heavier though. I do appreciate his facial experessions, it makes me feel like he is listening.