[KazzaX]

New therapist (the 10-free-sessions scheme). Session number 2 and I had to fire her. Really sux because that leaves me with 8 sessions for the whole year.. arg! So frustrating. She didn't even remember me from the first session, and this session was basically all about "Cheer up, then you wont be so depressed". Argh!

I keep hearing about how you gotta keep trying to get the "right fit" therapist. Either I am unlucky and keep getting duds or maybe the standard is lower in my country than what I hear about you guys in other countries? I dunno. But man, it is frustrating! You guys sound like you have great therapists. I keep getting stuck with "cheer up" lol. grrrrr!

I went through a dozen therapists before I found mine. It's an exhausting, expensive, and sometimes painful process. Finding the right match though, is worth it.

[purplelephant]

I have only had one therapist (and my parents picked her out, and it was actually a recommendation from my medical team...) so I don't have experience with this. BUT maybe therapists seem all "cheer up"ish at first because they don't know you yet and so can't offer a more valuable insight?

I know that must be really awful though. I hate when my friends say "just think positive thoughts and you'll stop being depressed." It's so invalidating. So maybe I'm wrong. I really hope you find the right T for you

[tkdgirl]

I say keep trying. Just think for every dud you already found there is better odds for the next one. It took me 3 tries to find the T I use. I could have settled with the first one and tried make it work but knowning from PC what others had made me know something better is out there and though it wasnt easy I kept looking. I also did as much screening as I could over email and Internet searches before seeing any in person. Maybe something to try, before spending more money.

[Towanda]

I went through five T's before I found the gem I have now. By went through I mean I talked to them at length on the phone (45 min to an hour). Yes, they charged me for it. The T I have now - we clicked immediately when we talked, and have a great relationship. Don't give up - the right one is out there somewhere.

[Mike_J]

I would say keep trying, I think finding the right therapist for you is VERY important. I think my therapist is AWSOME and she has done so much for me but I'm sure there are lots of people she wouldn't be right for.

Therapy has helped me SO much so I would suggest that you don't give up on it, just look for a therapist who is a better fit for you.

[TinaL]

It does get frustrating, but I went 3-4 yrs searching and hitting road blocks. Finally! I found one I can work with. It's one of the most challenging things I have had to deal with...as if I didn't have enough to deal with. Hang in there!

[geez]

I found the right T the first time until I outgrew what she had to offer me. Now I'm on to a new T and while she is great I'm very not open to the process right now and it's very frustrating! Keep searching. Perhaps there are a couple questions you can ask on the phone first to see what their treatment approach is?