[crazylife]

I was doing EMDR with my T last week and new memories flooded in and he asked me where it hurt and what i could feel but i felt like a little girl and went really embarrassed and didn't know how to say it hurt down there. Feel like such a idiot now for not being able to tell him, any tips?

[CantExplain]

Can you say "It hurts down there", just like you told us?

[Wren_]

I've used those words before with t and he understood

[Nightlight]

No need to feel like an idiot for struggling to say that! It wouldn't have been the easiest thing to say, and given the way you were feeling, definitely not easy.

I agree with CE. The words you used here probably would convey the meaning well enough. Otherwise when you next see T you could just be honest, and say - I could feel where it hurt, but I was feeling really young, and it was far too embarrassing to say it out loud.

[WePow]

My heart goes out to you. Doing EMDR allows us to face the trauma in a safe NOW. So our mind and emotions are what they were at the age of the event being processed.
That means if a person would have been shy or afraid of talking about certain things, that is what will come out in EMDR work.

[WikidPissah]

You're not an idiot..that is a hard thing to express.
I like what Nightlight said, maybe next time you can just say you are too embarrassed to tell.

[kirbydog156]

Can you point? Then you don't have to say it.

[unaluna]

I once said I was feeling "crotchy". T thought I misspoke and meant "crotchety" ie cranky. I yelled at him for thinking I didn't know what crotchety meant, and for not realizing I had made up a new word! Poor T's!

But last week, I realized it was not a "thrilling" feeling, but I felt like I was wetting my pants, feeling afraid of my mother as a small child. So it took me a few years even to identify what EXACTLY the feeling down there even was about, for as many times as I had already mentioned it (at least ten?). So just to let you know you're not alone, and it might take time.

[crazylife]

Thank you everyone feeling more positive about next session, should it come up i think i will say what all you guys have, plus try and tell him before EMDR.

[turquoise4]

You are not an idiot. I have been there, those are some hard things to talk about especially when you are not feeling like and adult. Just wanted to let you know you are not alone. I think others offered great advice on ways to tell your T.

[crazylife]

I think its that little bit harder to because my T is male. I know it shouldn't matter but it's still hard.