[lostmyway21]

Does anyone else's married T not wear there ring in session? My T is married with a kid but doesn't wear his ring. Although I think I spotted where he keeps it hidden when in session.

Is this weird for a T to do?

Not weird. T's have a wide range of what they are comfortable with. I know Ts who do not wear rings who are married. Ts who are not married that wear a ring. Ts who are married, wear a ring, but dont acknowledge anything about it. Just depends.

[autumnleaves]

My T doesn't wear a ring, but I'm pretty sure she's divorced.

[critterlady]

A lot of men don't wear wedding rings at all. I wouldn't read too much into it.

I think, lostmyway21, that the fact that this is an issue that is bothering you that you need to bring it up and discuss it with your therapist. I know a lot of "non therapy" people (male and female) that choose not to wear their wedding rings. Often it is a personal thing and sometimes it is an allergy thing.

I do think that is important, especially considering the attachement issues that many of us deal with in therapy (rejection, misinterpetation of our therapist's comments or statements, abandonment, severe reactions to our therapists going away on vacation/conferences etc.) we need to talk about on a very very deep level our feelings on these topics. Often we need to focuse on these topics session after session until we gain some level of closure.

One of the things I've noticed here on PC, is that we ask these deep angsting questions here on line .. .but we fail to venture into the difficult and painful area of saying these things in our sessions. I'm not saying this in criticism, because I know that I am in the group that holds back, swallows my questions or pain and just soldiers on. But how is that helping us? Not much. ... So, I would say, lostmyway21, what keeps you from asking him why he might not wear his wedding ring when YOU know he is married? Is it your own fear that he would reject your question, block it, feel offended by it, be angry by it (and what would that mean?) or he would simply answer that it bothers him or he's never worn it? HOw interesting that we pull back and fail to be honest and upfront in a medium (psychotherapy) which demands that we as the client be all that we might avoid. . .

This is no way a reflection of what your choice might be, lostmyway21, it just struck me as so significant when we're talking about being truthful in our own personal therapy venture

[stopdog]

I agree - just ask him. But what difference to therapy does it make?
I know people of both sexes who do not keep their wedding rings on. Some for reasons as simple as their fingers sometimes swell in the summer. I have no idea whether that one I see wears a wedding ring or not. She mentions a husband.

[ECHOES]

Originally Posted by lostmyway21

Does anyone else's married T not wear there ring in session? My T is married with a kid but doesn't wear his ring. Although I think I spotted where he keeps it hidden when in session.

Is this weird for a T to do?

Yes, my T doesn't wear her wedding ring. I asked why, not expecting an explanation and didn't get one . But I was curious so I put it out there

[healed84]

My T is married and does wear his ring.. I find it weird that if they normally do wear a ring, why they would take it of for sessions? Is this part of the blank slate thing?? Lost does your T not disclose much of his life to you?? I find it odd, but then again.. I am still newb to the whole T process.

[lostmyway21]

Originally Posted by healed84

My T is married and does wear his ring.. I find it weird that if they normally do wear a ring, why they would take it of for sessions? Is this part of the blank slate thing?? Lost does your T not disclose much of his life to you?? I find it odd, but then again.. I am still newb to the whole T process.

Nope he's not a blank slate with me at all. I know a fair amount about his life, and he's always very open about telling me certain things that come up. Maybe he does it for his other clients? I'm his first client on Monday I'm going to see if he wears it into the office on Monday. I get there before him.