[Silent_tsol]

I listen to a radio show called love line with Dr. Drew and an idea has been ping pong-ing around in my head for a while. It seems almost like he is psychic sometimes, although I realize it's really probably just experience working with people. But that's the part that makes me nervous.

See sometimes someone will call and say "I have a sore thumb" and he will pick up on things, I guess from their voice and the question, even though half the time it seems entirely irrelevant. And he will say "oh, you have a sore thumb. Well did your parents get divorced when you were 8?" And it'll just be some strange far off connection that he comes up with and they seem accurate and it worries me. Because it's probably not a psychic thing, but more likely a T thing. So I worry about whether my T picks up on things without me saying thumb. Does she know things without me telling her? I don't know what things I'm worried about, but the idea makes me dizzy and nauseous.

My t picks up on so much untold stuff about me that it is just bizarre. She has a gift or something. Sometimes its like she even reads my mind because she will say what i am thinking or what i am hoping she will say. Or she will figure something out right away. Or if im being stubborn and insisting something isnt true she will say " i KNOW this is true"- when of course it is. Its downright freaky.

[BlessedRhiannon]

My T picks up on sooo much that I leave unsaid. Sometimes it really bothers me, because she's picking up on stuff I DON'T want to talk about. Sometimes, I'm really grateful, because it makes talking to T much easier.

Last session, as I was leaving her office, something about walking past her in the door way was very triggering and I started to panic. T almost never asks me how I'm doing as I leave, but something made her ask me just as I'd walked past her. I told her I was "fine"...all I wanted to do was get away. She just looked at me with that look that says she knows better, and asked me to try that again. I told her I wasn't fine, but I would be and I needed to go. T knew something was wrong. We've talked about it since, and it's just creepy sometimes how much she picks up on.

T nearly always notices changes in my breathing, facial expressions, tone of voice.

[WikidPissah]

Yea, experience is part, training is part too. I took a class in body language once, it was done by this forensic expert. Amazed me how many little cues our body gives off without our consent. The book actually terrified me for a bit.

That being said, we have to remember that "they only know what we tell them". They might be perceptive, they might pick up on little things, but if we don't tell them whats going on, they won't know. Never think you don't have to say it because the t's already guessed it.

[Silent_tsol]

Originally Posted by WikidPissah

Yea, experience is part, training is part too. I took a class in body language once, it was done by this forensic expert. Amazed me how many little cues our body gives off without our consent. The book actually terrified me for a bit.

That being said, we have to remember that "they only know what we tell them". They might be perceptive, they might pick up on little things, but if we don't tell them whats going on, they won't know. Never think you don't have to say it because the t's already guessed it.

Aww dang it wiki, can everyone read my mind?

I know I can't just let her guess everything, I've tried suggesting some new methods such as mime therapy and a subtitle machine that reads my mind and plays for her. Apparently neither of those exist.

I know she picks up on little things but it worries me that she could be understanding more from what I say than I think I'm saying. Like if I were to say my thumb was sore, would she wonder if something happened when I was 8 or if my parents are still together.

[confused and dazed]

My T picks up on EVERY little movement, sigh , blink and or twitch. Kinda scary how much T knows about me, with out me even telling T. There have been times, I have wanted to go into T's office, sit down and ask T how my day was. . ( been times I think T would know better than me)

[unaluna]

I love the sub-title machine! or maybe it could work like the UN translators, with a little earbud. I wouldn't mind hearing what I really mean myself.

T's are trained to listen to our life stories and deduce certain things even from the way we tell it. when it comes to our early attachment, you pretty much just have the 4 categories, and that really colors a person outlook, how they interact. the details of what happened to each person are different of course, but ya know, neglect is neglect, etc. but also dr drew is pretty smart and he has been doing this a long time.

[pbutton]

A few sessions ago, when T was talking I glanced down for a split second to check where I had set my water. I didn't see it and instantly looked back up to listen to T. T said "you put it on the floor next to your chair."

Creepy. Thanks for paying THAT much attention, Mr. Therapist.

[sittingatwatersedge]

Originally Posted by pbutton

Creepy. Thanks for paying THAT much attention, Mr. Therapist.

No kidding.

SAWE: One of these days I am going to put this tote bag down and stop hiding behind it.
T2: You almost did, last week. Then you remembered it.
SAWE: (sinking behind tote bag) ....

creepy is the exact word for it. sometimes safety for me. and then YIKES...
t tends to be gentle that way, cause otherwise i have a habit of saying "i didn't say that" ...

he was a mind reader in the beginning. i will almost swear to it. but as time wore on, maybe i became more of a mystery..