to those who so kindly supported us during the crisis of the counselor answering her phone during session we want to thank you and offer the end result of it
last night we went and figured we had zero to lose at this point. at some point it was brought up. oddly enough we had no feelings surrounding it anymore,or else we just were shut off to them. we shared with her our posting here and how there were differing opinions/suggestions. she seemed open to listening and accepted what was said. we told her that another thing we had remembered was the ex-counselor would always take private,counseling-type calls directly in front of us and we would have to listen which made us extremely,extremely uncomfortable and anxious. so we shared that and said that had been another trigger. she thanked us and said we had brought up a very good point and she hadnt considered that it may have felt intrusive. so she said if it ever happened again she would excuse herself-which we also appreciated. we did let her know we are currently searching out new counsel as she just cant give us what we really need and she said shed be happy to work with us until we found one. just wanted to share and say thanks once again.

sorry...

[kiki86]

why are you sorry?

i'm glad you're working through things. i do think it's good to get a new T though. i don't think you should have had to work so hard to get through to her.

[pbutton]

Why are you sorry?

dont know..felt like we shouldnt have posted maybe

[unaluna]

that sounds like huge steps taken, big insights gained, on both your parts! monumental, my T would say. he would also say, it ain't over til the fat lady sings - he loves to quote Yogi Bera. when I had my rupture with T last year, I didn't KNOW if we could continue working together - I had "somehow" received an email intended for his girlfriend. he said it was a computer glitch, I was like, glitch my crunchbird, it was countertransference pure and simple, what's the matter with you? and btw, WTF??? (as per content). but I talked it over with 3 people I respected - my former t/pdoc, a longtime friend who is now a counselor, and my apartment crush, who is an MD but also the smartest person I know. they all said it was about whether or not T could still help me and about how we worked thru this incident, which he was being pretty open about, considering! so, when life hands you lemons...
p.s. i'm glad you posted, if only so we could hear T's apology, not realizing it was intrusive. thanks!

[Sannah]

Very good work! You followed through and worked this out with your T! You changed your screen name didn't you?

Originally Posted by Sannah

Very good work! You followed through and worked this out with your T! You changed your screen name didn't you?

yes we did change our name,thank you for noticing♥

[AngelWolf3]

I am glad you posted! I think it was great you were all able to tell T how you felt, and get a resolution. (and hear that T apologized)

I am glad you kept everyone in the loop!

Hey, I.B. I'm just getting on the computer and am so glad to see this! So glad you were able to discuss it with her. I would not have gone back, personally, so it's awesome that you had the strength and self control to do so. Good for you!

[Dreamy01]

Well done! So glad you discussed this and T listened.

I'm impressed that you were able to speak up and tell her how you felt, because that would have been extremely difficult for me to do. It's too bad the whole phone thing happened, but maybe this T just wasn't the right one for you. Glad you're shopping for a new one, but still have a good enough relationship with this one to continuing seeing her until you find the new T.

PS - I don't remember your old screen name, but I like this one!

PS - I don't remember your old screen name, but I like this one!

it was trinitydancer

[WikidPissah]

I am really glad it turned out ok, and I like your new screen name.

[Chopin99]

I'm so glad it worked out okay and that she listened to you. Love the new name!!

thanks-it reflects how we feel

I.B.-Took a lot of courage to go back there...glad you got some resolution with it. Welcome back. I like the new screen name.

thank you we appreciate that♥

Really, really well done, IB. I'm proud of you for doing that.
I'm finding it hard not to call you by your previous name I do like your new name, though. Butterflies are very special to me, and this makes me think of one of those gorgeous butterflies with almost-transparent wings.

[rainbow_rose]

lovely butterfly. you are not invisible. i see you.

I'm glad you shared with your counselor. that was brave.