[JustDontAsk]

I had my first T session about a week ago, and it went okay although I was really nervous. It really helped knowing what to expect. But I have another visit on Tuesday. And I don't know what to expect at all. I'm even more nervous for that one. I'm so nervous that I'm thinking about cancelling...I don't know about this, I don't know what to do...

JDA

[ECHOES]

It's okay to have these feelings. Therapy is new and you can't expect to know what to do. In fact, you don't have to do anything but go. It will be okay

I think the majority of us felt this way in the beginning. My T admires her patients for their courage. She understands that it is new, it is different from anything else, and it feels awkward at times, and frightening at times. Just remember that it feels wonderful at times too!

[dailyhealing]

I think it is perfectly normal to continue to be nervous, and I hope you will not decide to cancel. I think it is a decision you would later regret. I think it would be good to let your T know about your anxiety about your visits, she may be able to ease your mind about things? And as for what to do, I don't think you have to do anything other than show up and try to be honest about where you are. You are already doing the right things. It's hard work, but it can really help if you stick with it! Thanks for posting and I hope you will keep us updated on how you are doing! You are very brave to keep fighting through your anxiety JDA!

[Hope-Full]

I echo what the others have said. I remember being more nervous for my second session with my T as well - it was as if the first time was just "getting to know you" and the second time, well, I was supposed to "work"! I had no idea what "work" in therapy looked like.

Really, all you have to do, like the others said, is show up. You can even tell your T that you were nervous and wanted to cancel - I'm sure it's not the first time T has heard it! It will also be a good conversation to have - she'll know how to respond in a way that will be calming and helpful.

Good luck!

[Silent_tsol]

Unfortunately the pre-session anxiety doesn't go away after the first meeting. I really Luke what echoes said about t being new and different. I've been in the spot of wanting to cancel, but each time you don't cancel and you make your appointment you've accomplished something. A little step towards beating the anxiety.

[JustDontAsk]

My first message was a "getting to know you" session, too. And so I don't know what to expect out of this one...I'm really considering not going to T anymore.

Thanks for all the replies.

JDA

((((JDA)))) i can relate. This particular T that I am seeing now (for a month or so...), at our first session, I was so anxious, I felt as though I would faint. I was so nervous! I had to ask to leave the room to be alone. The next sezsion was really scary as well.

Since then, since he knows how nervous I am, he has been lovely, and checks on how I am doing. And it appears, with each session, my anxiety seems to be less intense.

I have never felt scared or nervous before in t, so this is new to me. Do you know why are dont feel comfortable?

I try very hard to put it out of my mind in between sessions, too. I also ask for homework ... for instance, since I was so terrified the first time, he asked me to write about my feelings seeing him in between appts.

The reason I push forward and do not quit is because I feel as though there is something really good right around the corner...and that my fear, anxiety is telling me something that I want to understand. So I can feel better.

That said, also, not every T is a good fit. Sometimes, it is worth going another few sessions, so you can check in with each other to see if you are on the same page. Either way, it is a worthwhile discussion xx

If you are super nervous again for your next appt, we are always happy to be pocket riders for you too

Best wishes to you, with hugs,
Rose

It's normal to be nervous. The first meeting was a "Getting to know you" meeting and really each one after that is really the same thing My experience was the T asked me what I'd like to talk about.

Try not to let your mind get the best of you Your T just wants to help you feel better, like us here at PC

[JustDontAsk]

I hope she doesn't ask what I want to talk about. I wouldn't know what to say. Thank you for all the support everyone, I appreciate it so much.

Rose: I don't feel comfortable because it's all uncontrolled once I go in there.

At least that is how I feel.

Take care,

JDA

[ECHOES]

It's okay to say you don't know what to talk about. Something will come up.
Even after 5 years of therapy, I start some sessions that way.

Yes, the unknown and unfamiliar is unnerving. But remember it will be familiar at some point, as everything familiar began as something unfamiliar

[JustDontAsk]

The fear of the unknown is really there at the moment...

[Hope-Full]

I can relate to that JDA - I've let the fear of the unknown keep me from a lot of things that I would have probably liked. That's part of why I'm in therapy right now.

It feels scary and uncomfortable, but sometimes that's the only way for change and growth. Remember, your T is a professional doing the job that she loves - I don't know any T that does this because they "have" to, most are drawn into the field because they genuinely care about helping others. T is going to want the best for you no matter what, even though it's only your second session.

I encourage you not to cancel. It's been said that 4-6 visits should be had before a decision is made. Sometimes financials don't allow for that, but coming from one anxious worrier to (what sounds like) another - give it a try, you might be surprised!

(and I don't mean to sound disrespectful or negative or anything, just offering my opinion and thoughts as someone who's been there before!)

[JustDontAsk]

Thanks Hope-Full, maybe I'll just stick it out...

Just remember this is part of solving the puzzle. Your T is like a guide for you to help guide you to things which can explain the questions you had before you reached out for help.

Get a good workout in before your next session, the dopamine shots to your brain will help release some of the anxiety. Send one of us a PM if you want.

This will be okay

[JustDontAsk]

Thanks...I will work out if my ankle doesn't hurt...We'll see how I feel tomorrow then I guess...

[Chopin99]

I'm going to echo the others...don't cancel. I'm on therapist #3 and I can tell you from experience that if you don't know what to talk about, they will ask questions until something comes up. At least it's worked that way for me. At times I have thought to myself, "Why am I even going? I don't know what to say!" Those have turned out to be some of the best sessions.

Right now I don't have that problem, I have the opposite; there is so much going on in my therapy, an hour feels too short!!

Good luck to you; you can do it!

[JustDontAsk]

Thanks. I hope it goes okay. I'm glad my sessions are only a half hour...