[Butterflies Are Free]

I think I mentioned in another post that my T was away on vacation last week. Although I thought about her, I actually had a good week myself and did not have an intense feeling of missing her like I always have in the past. Is this a good thing? What does it mean exactly?

That you felt save enough in the relationship to allow distance.

WEll I am not sure what it means but I have had the same experience this month-T was away for two months and because I knew she wasn't there and I couldn't get hold of her I felt relived and went about my life as normal pre-therapy and actually did really well. I don't know what it is about her that makes me want her so much and makes me so needy but something does and I hate it.

[pbutton]

I think it is a very good thing. It means you have enough skills to take care of yourself & have a good week on your own.

I think it means your growing and therapy is working.

Don't worry about the why or how come... just enjoy the magic as it happens.

[BlessedRhiannon]

I think it's a great thing. I would expect it means that you feel secure in your relationship with your T and that you have learned enough skills to manage without T's support when needed.

[rainbow8]

I think it is very positive that you didn't miss your T intensely while she was away. Doesn't that mean that you have a secure attachment towards her? You care about her and you know she cares about you even though she's away. I know I'm aiming for that feeling and I feel it a little bit during the week now that I can't email.

[Emptty]

That's wonderful, I'm happy for you. I think a big sign of therapy working is when that 'safe' feeling you get with your T moves from the office into your daily life.

[Mike_J]

Don't worry about what it means, just accept it's a good thing and be happy..

[autotelica]

It means you have a life outside of therapy.