[Wren_]

If I asked my t if I'm still alive because I can't remember
He would probably not understand? And it would waste a session
But I don't know where to put my questions because how can anyone understand me when I can't myself

[stopdog]

Why would it waste a session? Sometimes for me, the attempt to explain is useful, whether the therapist understands or not. Granted, I rarely believe the therapist understands at all, so I gave that up, as much as possible, as a goal for me.

[Wren_]

I want the understanding part too much perhaps
And get frustrated at times with the run around questions that happen instead of direct answers even knowing the run around ones sometimes help

[stopdog]

I get frustrated if the therapist does not give direct answers too. The one I see rarely responds with a question if I ask her a direct question, but if she did I would respond to it badly.

[Chopin99]

From the perspective of someone who is accused of "doing the running around" by T instead of being straightforward about what I want to work on, I would say ask it. If it's something you want to know, ask.

I don't see any session as wasted. It's my journey; I'll take it wherever I want it to go. I took one session a few months ago just to chat...a give and take where I asked T about herself and she asked me about myself. I learned more about who T is and who I am.

[stopdog]

I do see some (many) appointments as wasted. Learning about the therapist is not something I care much about except in so far as it might relate to me, and I often do not know how what went on in the appointment is useful to me in terms of why I see a therapist.
TG-do you feel interaction is wasted in other non t situations if the other person does not understand? Could wrestling with issue with the therapist help you understand more so that you could then explain it so the therapist would understand? That was a vit convoluted and when I figure out how to write it more directly, I will edit.

I think asking your question is a good idea. Like posted above, it can still help you by going through what lead you to the subject. I'd be a terrible T, when I get a question I'm not ready for I get stuck in "Processing" mode with a nice blank look on my face...

Originally Posted by tigergirl

If I asked my t if I'm still alive because I can't remember
He would probably not understand? And it would waste a session
But I don't know where to put my questions because how can anyone understand me when I can't myself

For some reason I can understand/relate to that question. I think you should ask, if you still feels this way when you see him the next time. It would not be a waist. It is a great question and if he picks up on it in a step towards ... a path of healing. He might not have the right thing to say maybe but I am sure he will get it somehow..... I think it is one of those questions we on this long road for whatever reason, can and will be able to answer for ourselfes at some point.

Sometimes just talking through a question such as that can lead to A better understanding and sometimes even an answer. I think it's worth a shot, beats the heck out of some of the superficial crap that gets brought up somedays.

[Wren_]

Thanks ... it just seems that there is so much to say always and so little time and then I ask things that I should be able to work out myself; like I do know the answer to my question and yet it is still there the idea of better understanding for both of us does sound helpful though

Stopdog, I think maybe so at least some of the time ... perhaps wasted isn't the right word but it does feel that way at times when there isn't understanding

[learning1]

I'm sorry you're feeling like that Tigergirl

[Wren_]

Thanks learning