[granite1]

i had been reading this short story called The Heart Of A Monkey. my T was very interested in this story because she seemed to easily relate it to feelings and things going on in my life.
so last session again she asked me how the story ended and the idea of telling her was so so tiring. the idea of talking was tiring.i knew it was going to be a long explanation and i just didn't want to do it because the idea of talking that much made me tired.
has anyone ever gotten physically tired from the act of talking. because this is what it was like.it wasn't that i was scared to tell her about the story or scared to talk.the task of speaking just seemed very daunting and .
it was just strange.i have not used words because i have been scared,or angry and rebellious,had no idea what to say.but never because the idea of opening my mouth was just tiring.that is a new one

Yes, I have experienced this. Not in T, though. It's a very odd feeling.

[Perna]

That's interesting, that you get tired; I would tell your T that: http://www.succeedsocially.com/drained

[stopdog]

Yes. Sometimes the effort to speak to explain is just too much.

I get that way when I am really, really depressed, but pretty much everything is exhausting at that point.

[granite1]

Originally Posted by Perna

That's interesting, that you get tired; I would tell your T that: http://www.succeedsocially.com/drained

wow awsome article thanks

[Sannah]

Yeah, I have felt like this a few times and I attributed it to be emotionally tired.

[sconnie892]

Yes. I have had this happen mostly in sessions. For me it usually comes on suddenly, generally about half way through. But sometimes it will be right at the start. I am just suddenly exhausted and the thought of speaking exhausts me more.

[unaluna]

sounds like low potassium to me. I mean, that's the only time i'm too tired to talk. or after i've moved house for a week, or gotten ready for the inspector for 3 days. the hankster has to be pretty much dead on her feet to be unable to speak. i'll probably be talking at my own funeral. yessirree bob...

Yes I've felt like that. I think At those times I just want T to be able to just "know" what I want to say without me having to say it.

[granite1]

Originally Posted by hankster

sounds like low potassium to me. I mean, that's the only time i'm too tired to talk. or after i've moved house for a week, or gotten ready for the inspector for 3 days. the hankster has to be pretty much dead on her feet to be unable to speak. i'll probably be talking at my own funeral. yessirree bob...

can you be in my pocket next session please

I'm with Hankster, I talk in my sleep. If I'm quiet for too long, you better check for a pulse. I think I get tired of hearing myself talk sometimes, but never the actual act of talking.

[mixedup_emotions]

((( granite )))

I've missed you, my friend...and have thought of you often....(( HUGS ))

Yes, I can relate to this very much. Since I suffer with migraines, the exhaustion that follows afterwards affects my ability to talk. In group T, I find that I am silent quite a bit - because the act of talking is draining.

My T says that when I connect with others in group T, it helps build energy...but if I try to make contact and miss, then it's a drain on my energy. So, I find that when I'm emotionally or physically tired, I have a tendency to not take the risk in speaking.

[granite1]

Originally Posted by mixedup_emotions

((( granite )))

I've missed you, my friend...and have thought of you often....(( HUGS ))

Yes, I can relate to this very much. Since I suffer with migraines, the exhaustion that follows afterwards affects my ability to talk. In group T, I find that I am silent quite a bit - because the act of talking is draining.

My T says that when I connect with others in group T, it helps build energy...but if I try to make contact and miss, then it's a drain on my energy. So, I find that when I'm emotionally or physically tired, I have a tendency to not take the risk in speaking.

nice to hear from you also my friend how are you doing

[WikidPissah]

yes. I often get drained and tired in t. It is a lot of mental work coming up with words for that amount of time.

[granite1]

wow i guess you could say it was from being just emotionally drained.especially after all that went on with my aunt and talking about a lot of hard new stuff for me in T.i really never expeerianced that because i dont talk for other reasons. wow lol who knew drained from talking .emotionally drained. you guys should read that article it is good

[purple_fins]

Yes, I am like this A LOT. not only with talking but with posting, texting and any other communication. *sigh*....
I think, for me anyway, it's emotional exhaustion.

wonder what it is for you-- do you have an idea??... (u don't have to answer this "outloud")

Hope you feel better soon.

fins

[Sannah]

After scanning that article it reminded me of a definition of introverts and extraverts. Extraverts gain energy by being around people and introverts lose energy by being around people. So introverts need time alone to recharge and extraverts can dislike being alone.

[looking4polaris]

--Sorry, this turned out to be way longer than I intended. Clearly, I'm not having trouble speaking my mind today. Feel free to ignore.--

T and I have discussed this topic. I am a non-talker and T (surprise, surprise) wants to talk about everything, right now. One day I said to him "aren't there ever any times when you just don't want to talk?" Of course, he laughed and said no.

But, as I explained to him, my point was not are there times when you don't want to discuss something, but times when you just don't want to take the effort to say something.... even something you are interested in communicating but, for whatever reason, you just don't want to go to the trouble to open your mouth and say the words. Nope, he didn't get it.

Maybe it's something simple like a piece of information about kids school that I need to communicate to partner or good family news, but I just don't want to bother with it. Or, it might be something to talk about in T and I just don't want to mess with it right then. One of those things where he asks what I'm thinking and I say "I just don't want go to the trouble to talk about it right now." No deep dark secrets I'm holding back, just "meh, do we have to do this right now?"

I usually claim laziness, tiredness, too tired to actually open my mouth and speak the words (all true)...but T says that's too easy and I'm just being my stubborn, resistant self about looking deeper into why I really don't want to talk about any of that stuff...even if it's just to say something I want to say anyway (especially that, he says!)