[sweepy62]

Hi, so next week will be my third session and probably last one until i get my insurance, anyway as of sept 12 i will be in her group the new t, I presently go to substance abuse group for alchohol binge drinking and not taking my meds i go three times a week and its a good group with a good t so everything is new for me now, why o why do i still long for my old t its been 3 weeks already i get so sad almost to tears when i listen to her voicemail recording that she told me to record before she left for support, i become like this 5 yr old kid like i been lost or abandoned, the new t tells me its grieving and because termination was sudden i am suppose to feel this, but i feel so guilty having these feelings and not having it that intense for my mom who is so far away and i havent seen for 2 yrs, can anyone explain this to me

[rainboots87]

I can relate I'm dealing with termination too (though not so sudden), and I also listen to voice messages from my old T to make me feel better from time to time. I dealt with this in the past and, while it was super hard at first, it did get better with time. I also don't miss others as much, part of which I think stems from the T relationship being over. With my friends and family who are far away, I know I can talk to them or see them again. It's tough to grieve something that has ended, I know. Many hugs!!

[sweepy62]

Thank u so much for ur reply it means alot

[pbutton]

I still miss my old T too, sweepy. Sometimes it really hurts, sometimes I am ok with it. I have seen my new T four times and I am starting to feel comfortable with him. It's a totally different relationship though.

[Sannah]

I hope that you can learn to accept that it is okay to grieve the loss of your T. If you allow the grieving, it can pass.