[Miswimmy1]

I have this strong want to please my t and make her proud... I feel like she believes in me so much and I really like her. I want her to like me. I don't want to disappoint her. I sometimes discover that I am not telling her the entire truth or that I am underplaying details to make it seem not as bad. Is anyone else experiencing this? What should i do about it?

I've felt that way my entire life, with just about everyone... I wish I had an answer for you.

Originally Posted by Miswimmy1

I have this strong want to please my t and make her proud... I feel like she believes in me so much and I really like her. I want her to like me. I don't want to disappoint her. I sometimes discover that I am not telling her the entire truth or that I am underplaying details to make it seem not as bad. Is anyone else experiencing this? What should i do about it?

be honest and let her know you feel the need to do that. and maybe ask her to prod/prompt you on certain things so you can get it all out?

I have the opposite problem with my T. I mean I like her, but I find myself telling/showing her my worst, so that I can get it all out now and there will be nothing to disillusion her later, should I start to feel embarrassed about the events in my life- they will already be out.

If you really can't say them, shoot her an e-mail and flesh out the rest of what you edited out previously.

Miswimmy, the truth will set you free.....

[~EnlightenMe~]

I'm glad that she believes in you, Mis. If you trust her, I think disclosing your secrets will help you realize that you can be who you are and not be rejected.

[Wren_]

There's lots of things I think will disappoint (and sometimes do a bit) t1 ... but he once said something along the line of the one thing that would upset him the most is if I pretended to be ok to avoid disappointing him, when I wasn't ok. In the end, it hurts us (and our T's) more than helps .... even though it's hard to risk facing that what we say may disappoint. If you can, talk to your T about this ... that you want her to be proud and that sharing things can be hard because of it ... something I need to keep working on also

You carry on being and saying the best you can and eventually when even this part of you is accepted as it seems to be by your T, then the "real" you will make an appearance. We go through many persona's in therapy.